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Can someone explain the phenomenon when ppl have no problem gendering u correctly until they find ur trans. this almost exclusively happens to me in queer spaces too which is the confusing part
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Anonymous 4w

it’s just transphobia lol, they learn you’re trans and go “oohhhh you’re not a girl, you’re a boy pretending to be a girl” or vice versa, and it can even be subconscious too. also many many non transsexual queer people are deeply transphobic lol

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Anonymous 4w

Plainly? transphobia and/or gender/sexuality/presentation gatekeeping within the community

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

in cis spaces you can almost be better off sometimes because if you pass or are close enough to passing their brain just defaults to “it has boobs, it’s a woman, use she/her” or “it has a beard, it’s a men, use he/him”

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

true but some of the most frequent offenders i’ve experienced are nonbinary like what 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

as a non-binary person who knows a lot of trans people I’ve seen it mostly from trans fems but my experience isnt defining of everyone else’s

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 4w

t on t crime 💔

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

in my experience the only people i’ve ever met who are consistently good enough ab it are people who are like well into the process of medically transitioning, which is more often binary trans men and women.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

some NBs aren’t as queer/trans as they’d like you to think, they’ll either be amazing about respecting and enforcing your pronouns even among other people or they’ll just be experimenting and never truly take actual trans people seriously (don’t be surprised if they eventually go back to being cis once they stop getting attention/friends)

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 4w

they’ll kill you for saying this but it’s true, it’s the same reason that there’s such a large number of transmasc people who act like T is some super dangerous deadly drug that they’d never in a 1000 years risk taking lol

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