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do any other trans men with long hair often get mistaken for being trans women because this has started happening to me a LOT lately as a trans dude who tends to present more androgynous and I have pretty long hair and wear light grungy makeup sometimes
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Anonymous 1d

it’s not like necessarily a bad thing like i’m never too offended by it really because i do GET how that mistake can be made in situations where im wearing makeup or something but sometimes it does really feel like it’s the default assumption if you have long hair and a deeper voice because somehow cis people are just entirely unaware of how taking testosterone works ig and assume deep voice = born male 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

although it does put me in this really weird position where i do experience a whole other kind of misogyny mixed with transphobia than i did pretransition and pre going on hormones because of this assumption happening so often and it does make me significantly more scared of getting clocked the opposite direction in public because people are so much more violent towards trans women.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

I have long hair and a fairly androgynous presentation too, and while I do get “sir- er… ma’am?”’d somewhat regularly, I haven’t been confidently interpreted as a trans woman (as far as I can tell) in at least a couple years I wonder how significant of a role location / local culture might play in this? cause I live in a famously progressive city, so it makes sense that people around me would be more aware of the existence of trans men than they would be in other areas

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

plus the boundaries of “what a man looks like” are probably less strict in my city overall, based on both the progressive angle and the well-established goth scene here. i.e. I keep being pleasantly startled at how many people gender me correctly when I’m wearing, say, fishnet sleeves and tiny shorts lol

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