Trans Talk on Sidechat | I’m genuinely sad there’s no way for nonbinary people to “pass” in society. I’ll never be able to fly under the radar, unless I commit to being misgendered for the rest of my life. Passing isn’t my goal exactly, but it also CANNOT be.

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Trans Talk 2w

I’m genuinely sad there’s no way for nonbinary people to “pass” in society. I’ll never be able to fly under the radar, unless I commit to being misgendered for the rest of my life. Passing isn’t my goal exactly, but it also CANNOT be.

Anonymous 2w

My choices are be visibly Out, be forever a topic of conversation, and my gender presentation will be A Thing, or I agree to live a lie and let the world misgender me and I’ll never be happy.

Anonymous 2w

I you pick just the right name then people will clock you immediately, I introduced myself at the beginning of the year to people as my preferred name and all of them did a head tilt and followed up with “pronouns?”

Anonymous

#1 2w

One of my now friends actually said “with a name like that, I had to check” lmao

Anonymous

#1 2w

Fair, I’ve found the name that is MINE. It is very neutral, but I still get she/her every time unless I come out, even to other queer people. Part of the problem is that I haven’t had top surgery yet (I do bind but it doesn’t do much), but that SHOULDN’T be a “problem”. And while I wish it were the case, in my experience most people (beyond maybe queer circles) don’t go around asking pronouns, so it’s on me to either accept misgendering or put myself in an uncomfortable or unsafe position.

Anonymous

#1 2w

Even your point about “with a name like that, I had to check”. It makes you stand out! I guess what I’m saying is that I also wish there was a way to be stealth as nonbinary. It’s not always safe for me to be out, and I wish I could just exist without people making (at least incorrect) assumptions about my gender.