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One of my longest and closest friends has recently come out to me as trans and I am overjoyed that she gets to make the changes that she has been missing for so long. We somewhat came out to each other at the same time, her as trans and me as —>
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what I believe is gender fluid, but I’m not 100% sure because while I’ve been doing a ton of thinking and reasoning with my feelings, I haven’t had a ton of opportunity to actually physically explore those feelings. It feels super good to have someone who shares similar thoughts and feelings that I can talk with, but I am frustrated with myself because I make mistakes and accidentally misgender her sometimes, by accidentally referring to her with “him” to other people or calling her “dude” to

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

get her attention. It has only been a few days and I only make these mistakes in person but I feel like it’s worse to make them in-person. Again, I have known her for years and years and years before she came out to me and I feel like the muscle memory of my mouth is working against me because I spent so long always referring to her with he/him and the fear of messing up makes it worse. I don’t want to make these mistakes, especially because she is so valuable to me as a friend and as a person

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

I feel like every time I accidentally use he/him or call her dude I’m breaking the trust she put in me when she came out

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3d

it takes practice. i knew a friend for only a year before they changed their name and for a while, i had to stop myself every time i was about to deadname them. now its natural. as long as u apologize, correct yourself and move on there shouldn't be anything to be mad about

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