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Trans Talk 22h
hot take: i dont really mind chasers as long as they arent creepy, like if youre into me for being a transfem then thats just more attention for me
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Anonymous 22h

Lack of attention drives people to dark places

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Anonymous 21h

I’ve never met a chaser who wasn’t creepy tbh, but then again I despise being sexualized by anyone I’m not in a relationship with

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Anonymous 19h

chasers don’t actually give *you* attention; they give attention to the fetishized idea of you they have in your head, and—at best—get upset when you don’t meet their “standards”

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Anonymous 22h

Ngl I’m the same way tbh my first chaser ended up becoming my best friend after not having any 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 21h

yeah, im so lonely

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 21h

Stay strong friend

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 19h

this is literally the case with all crushes, what gets you excited is the possibility of what might be

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

do crushes try to stop you from transitioning or see you as a sexual amalgamation? or

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 19h

and I’m pretty sure crushes don’t threaten to out you to people so that you do what they want 💀 chasers don’t crush on you, they aren’t excited about the possibility of getting to know you. they’re content with boiling you down to your body & to a gender you aren’t, and react emotionally or even violently if you don’t meet that. you can want their attention while acknowledging it’s unhealthy, but treating them as harmless puts you at such unnecessary risk.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 19h

i think we have had quite different experiences with chasers, and also those fall under the category of creeps

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

calling them “creeps” implies you can tell before you get involved lmao

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 19h

and even if you’re not talking about people like that, chasers still don’t give attention to you. they don’t care about you as a person, just that you’re trans. even if you found a chaser that wanted to marry you, they’d still be there exclusively because you transitioned. who you are is secondary at best. there’s so many people more worthy of *your* attention.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 19h

i think we have different definitions of what chasers are

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 19h

a chaser is someone who chases trans people, seeking them out because they’re trans. what other definition is there 😭

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 18h

idfk anymore, im just so lonely

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

I get that :/ feeling alone is an incredibly common experience for us, and it’s hard to navigate that. it’s why I’m so vehemently against people engaging with chasers, since they so often take advantage of us. the journey finding your people can be hard and isolating, but you’ll never find them if you settle for those who won’t be that for you. it takes so much strength just to get here; please don’t set that strength aside, and know that we’re proud of you

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