Trans Talk on Sidechat | My partner is considering bottom surgery and they keep basically asking me to make the decision for them, and I keep having to push back with “no it’s YOUR decision, it’s your body and your life, I can’t make that choice for you” and they don’t like it 😭

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Trans Talk 6w

My partner is considering bottom surgery and they keep basically asking me to make the decision for them, and I keep having to push back with “no it’s YOUR decision, it’s your body and your life, I can’t make that choice for you” and they don’t like it 😭

Anonymous 6w

i’m guessing they want it and are looking reassurance but ya that needs to be 100% their decision

Anonymous 6w

Its a big thing and its something to think like would you still be wjth them if they had it? Im not ready for it yet but when i am like yeah its my body but i want my partners support if i go and do it

Anonymous 6w

just reassure them that youd still love them the same it seems like theyre worried you wouldnt. i mean dont lie but i assume from the post that you would. its ok if u wouldnt but also dont hold them back in that case lol

Anonymous

#1 6w

That’s what I think too and I tell them that I support them regardless and just want them to be happy and confident whichever way they go, but I don’t want them to feel like they’re being influenced or pressured, y’know?

Anonymous

#3 6w

Absolutely and I tell them that I’ll 1000% support their decision either way, but I don’t want to be influencing their decision because I’ll love them either way but I want to make sure they still love theirself

Anonymous

#5 6w

I would absolutely support them either way they go, and I say that every time, they’re very aware that I wouldn’t leave them over that

Anonymous

OP 6w

in that case just keep doing what youre doing telling them that you will support and be there for them the whole way. they probably wanna do it but are nervous to pursue it (understandably). maybe send them tiktokers who go through similar procedures to the one they want so they feel more comfortable thinking about it :)