Some people might be offended and others won’t, it’s possible she thought you were trying to troll her, it’s a common experience unfortunately

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It’s not a rude question imo, but it depends on how it was asked Tho personally that’s a really vulnerable question for me, so I’d only be comfortable answering with friends

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It’s not necessarily rude, but it’s a very personal question. I think there’s also a difference between asking a stranger on TikTok a personal question, and asking someone you know.

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Better to be on the side of caution

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To some it might be personal, I guess she wants that to be more private or thought you were trying to be rude. Not fun that your genuine curiosity was met with offense. I knew I was genderqueer because I noticed feeling super uncomfortable looking at myself wanting to be more ‘boyish’. It’s been discovering what I’m comfy with because I’ve always been uncomfy. Short hair was great, changing clothes to more androgynous helped, every step has been “oh hey that’s nice!”

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it’s a weird thing to ask a stranger in a public setting because it’s kind of personal. but if it’s a friend or someone you know in a private setting and they’re comfortable then that’s fine

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