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Today I f’ed up 2w
I went on a date with a guy and fuxked him in the same night. The next time we hung out he left early and told me over text he doesn’t wanna see me anymore bc I’m too energetic? B- wha-?
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Anonymous 2w

I hear you. How did you two meet?

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Anonymous 2w

ohhh

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Anonymous 1w

tell me why i basically went through the same exact thing in 2024

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Anonymous 2w

Did you talk a lot?

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Anonymous 2w

He’s looking for his wife; his wife wouldn’t fuck a stranger their first time meeting.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Lol but a husband would?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Men love to do that though

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Whats your point? She could’ve ghosted too. She didn’t, so for her she’d accept that from someone she’s participating with. He obviously did not.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

I get your point, but he did absolutely take advantage of me. He lied to me by acting like everything was cool, told me how much he wanted to see me and hold me, and got my hopes up. He didn’t say what he wanted or make that clear, so I went with the vibes. Cooked him a meal, we cuddled, watched anime.. then decided to text me to tell me things wouldn’t work out bc of being energetic…

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

Exactly, he was the one who initiated. Why’s it okay that he can get what he wants, but a woman can’t?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Lust is a an emotion just like love, hate; longing and indifference. If he said “I had a rough day and feel like being alone” would you have read deeper into it - taken it as a sign that he doesn’t want anything to do with you? No. You both shared a moment of fleeting emotions. He did not manipulate you, trick you or con you. You both gave into the same emotion.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

Had you been stronger it would’ve made the emotion grow on his side. But with greater complexity - lust + longing + love … actually “feelings” Instead, he left with post-nut clarity and realized this wasn’t what he wanted. Which is okay.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

I agree that it’s okay that he doesn’t want me. He had 0 type of honesty with what was going on and allowed me to get close. Normally I am “stronger” I have been abstinent. But I felt connection, let my guard down, & he talked to me to make me feel safe. It wasn’t until I had this longing feeling everything wasn’t “cool.” When I reached out to understand and communicate what was happening. No matter what the situation is, wife or a one-night stand, don’t act like it’s something it’s not

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Plus I definitely take accountability. I rushed things when I should’ve put myself before any type of boy. Another learned lesson😭

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Hence why I’m posting in “today I f*ed up”

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

lol

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