General on Sidechat | I hate when people talk and they have a “feel bad for me” tone but they don’t say what’s wrong It’s honestly like dry begging And ik sound horrible saying this, but don’t lie it definitely annoys some of you too

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General 1w

I hate when people talk and they have a “feel bad for me” tone but they don’t say what’s wrong It’s honestly like dry begging And ik sound horrible saying this, but don’t lie it definitely annoys some of you too

Anonymous 1w

No no I get it dw. It’s fine in small doses, I tend to feel bad about flat out complaining. But I had a friend who did this all the time. And then I’d present solutions and she’s just go back to her self pity and wallowing, and not make ANY attempt to help herself. I can’t stand it. She’d practice looking depressed, I stg

Anonymous 1w

I think I’ve done this before. It’s like soft launching your hardships. You don’t want to vent to be people cold open, so you want to litmus test if they’re open to being a shoulder to cry on

Anonymous

#1 1w

If they don't lean in, i take it as signal that they don't have the emotional space to hear out all my woes, and i respect that boundary rather than trauma dumping on the spot.

Anonymous

#1 1w

I can definitely see how this would be frustrating on the other end, though. If someone deliberately keeps dancing around it and doesn’t give you anything to work w