Anonymous #1 13w

Ah

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Anonymous #2 12w

When we argue she grabs my hair and holds me against the wall until I apologize. She eats me out while I’m sleeping even though I’ve told her I don’t like that. She tells me a lot if I leave her she’ll k herself. She’s moved us two states away, away from all my friends and family. I have to make excuses for just chatting with even like cashiers at grocery stores, because she gets jealous easily. She tells me I dress too much like a “slut” and got rid of all my cute clothes and dressed while

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Anonymous OP 12w

Gng she’s raping you

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Anonymous OP 12w

I was at work. She goes thru my phone 24/7 and 9 times out of 10 finds something innocent she takes as “cheating” and we have screaming fights over it. Just all we seem to do is fight but I’m always on the losing side.

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Anonymous OP 12w

Idk if this is just the normal toxic college relationship or something worse.

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Anonymous #2 12w

There was no penetration or anything it was just oral

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Anonymous OP 12w

There is no amount of “normal” toxicity you need to get law enforcement involved

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Anonymous OP 12w

Still SA

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Anonymous #2 12w

I’m not out to my parents yet so I can’t really go home to get away from her and she dangles that over my head a lot. I want to break up with her but I don’t really know what to do.

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Anonymous OP 12w

Get out of there however you can she does NOT love you

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Anonymous #2 12w

Oh

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Anonymous OP 12w

I’m sorry gng but there’s both violence and SA and she’s using classic manipulation tactics you need to run

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Anonymous OP 12w

I also wanna make sure you know that none of this is your fault in any way

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Anonymous #3 12w

I understand going back to your parents is scary if you’re not out to them and don’t know how they’d react. My advice is to see if you can go to a women’s shelter for the time being until you can ascertain if it’s safe for you to move back home. If your parents accept things when you come out to them, then you’re in the clear. If not, you’re in a safe place away from your GF, with some space to think, get help, and find a safe, permanent living situation.

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Anonymous #3 12w

I wish you the best of luck op 🫂. You’re in a really rough spot, but you can get through this.

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Anonymous #3 12w

Thanks for your kind words. Tbh I’m not really sure where to go from here. I got a lot of info and had my eyes open to some things here and right now I’m just kinda paralyzed.

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Anonymous OP 12w

Priority one is making sure that you have 3 things done: 1. Have your finances in order, and make sure she can’t access any of them. 2. Figure out the nearest shelter or place you can go for safety. 3. Pack a bug-out bag‘s worth of outfits and toiletries (in separate drawers, and discreetly) so that you can gather your things easily if you have to get out fast. It‘s a lot of information and feelings to process. Take things one step at a time.

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Anonymous OP 12w

It’s just that she’s not like this all the time. We’ve been together almost two years and she was the legitimately the most wonderful person I’d ever met. I thought she might be abusive but I didn’t know and I just wish someone had told me I’m just being dramatic.

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Anonymous #3 12w

Thank you for the advice, i don’t know how much of it I can feasibly do but I will start thinking about leaving her

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Anonymous #3 12w

4. Make sure you have all your important documents and electronics ready to go as well. Change your passwords on your important accounts if she’s ever had access to them, or ever had them disclosed to her.

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