Anonymous #1 5w

This isn’t my situation. Im not saying it bc of tunnel vision im saying it bc 1. Not a lot of people want to take on their partner’s financial situation and a lot of times in a relationship that’s a common outcome 2. If you don’t make people aware you’re going to just come off as not putting in effort 3. There’s also the ppl who constantly ask their partner for money 4. It’s just not a good stress for the person with those finances bc of that. I’m just saying this doesn’t have a happy outcome a

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Anonymous OP 5w

lot of the time and can usually just lead to more stress for all parties involved

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Anonymous OP 5w

Okay 1. You’re saying a lot of things that could’ve been said in the original post. And 2. If it’s not your problem why do you care so much

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Anonymous #1 5w

1. No it can’t be because the post have character limits and it wasn’t necessary to mention because those are the usual reasons people say what I said in the post. 2. I never said it was my problem. If people want to continue to be in relationships that actively cause stress on them or their partner because of finances then that’s their horrible decision making process. I said it’s weird to be annoyed by people saying that because whenever someone slightly suggests that sometimes there’s more

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Anonymous OP 5w

important matters than a date and finances is one of them people come at their throats for it and it’s also a common argument against people in dating where they get accused of being classist, having too high standards, etc. for simply suggesting that someone should focus more on their financial situation than dating. That’s literally the original post where I said it was about people getting mad that someone would suggest to focus on other things

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Anonymous OP 5w

Also no offense but if you genuinely think me taking not even five minutes of my day on these comments and post is caring a lot I don’t know what to say to you because I made this post and was planning on leaving it until you commented

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Anonymous OP 5w

Care enough to write multiple paragraphs. Maybe get a hobby bro

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Anonymous #1 4w

And yet you care this much about my opinion. I’ve actively been doing stuff all day. Just because you’re incapable doesn’t mean everyone else is. Take your own advice. I suggest reading a book

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Anonymous OP 4w

Ah not too much, it’s more just fun to see what you keep saying. And if we’re talking about books I’m roughly a quarter of the way through “For Whom the Bell Tolls” rn. Wby?

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Anonymous #1 4w

Clearly not enough if you’re so bothered by me calling out weird behavior. I’m reading the odyssey and writing a musical since you care to know so much about what I spend my time doing

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’m just making conversation gang

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Anonymous #1 4w

You don’t do a good job with “making conversation” when you start with the comment you did then try to be antagonistic towards someone who tried to explain why they made a post

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Anonymous OP 4w

Literally where was I being antagonistic. Opened with saying basically that people can just do what they want. You responded with a 3-page essay. I asked why you’re so concerned if it’s not your problem, then the next thing I said was pretty much just suggesting you get off your phone and cool down. You’re the one getting all worked up

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Anonymous #1 4w

If you don’t see how that’s antagonistic I don’t know what to tell you. That’s not a three page essay and the fact you’re describing it as such is comical. You started this interaction claiming that it’s only “more important” because of tunnel vision and I explained why I made the post to begin with because of how easily it shows up in life and how it can be harmful for a relationship. I already told you that people dating while struggling isn’t the problem and the problem addressed in the post

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Anonymous OP 4w

Hey man if you wanna make stuff that’s not your problem your problem and blow up about it go for it

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Anonymous OP 4w

is that people act weird when you tell them that it might not be the best decision. The post is about the reaction to being told that. That’s the problem because the reaction is disproportionate to the comment. You’re incredibly worried about me simply making a post and explaining why. If you believe this is a situation where someone needs to calm down even when I’m explaining to you why I believe a certain thing then you shouldn’t be involved in these conversations. Also again, these comments

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Anonymous OP 4w

Go for it man

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Anonymous #1 4w

Nvm you’re actually just stupid. I listed what I thought, you clearly have an issue with me expressing an opinion and a post so there’s no reason for this engagement to continue. Again, if you genuinely believe this is someone blowing up then that’s a personal issue. I have no problem explaining myself but if that’s what you believe then maybe you should leave the conversation

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Anonymous OP 4w

You got it man!

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Anonymous #1 4w

At least you’re disengaging

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Anonymous #1 4w

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Anonymous OP 4w

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Anonymous #1 4w

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Anonymous OP 4w

I’m tired, gimme a min

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