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hot take: as someone who works in elementary schools, having a child who is very overweight should be considered neglect. unless ofc it is bc of health/money reasons, you are setting them up for social and physical hardships due to your lack of parenting
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Anonymous 1w

It’s almost always because of health and money reasons tho

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Anonymous 1w

as someone who was the very overweight kid, i somewhat agree with you, but i also would like to say that my mom and dad, but esp my mom, were very anal about what i ate and did their absolute best to stop me from gaining weight. my mom wouldn’t let me buy school lunch and packed me a sandwich with a fruit, a vegetable, a snack, and a small “special treat” which was like a piece of chocolate. she cooked most nights and wouldn’t use a lot of butter or stuff with a lot of fat/sugar. (1)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

my mom would push me to play outside as much as possible and when i was 7 she started bringing me on 5 mile long walks so i would be moving. she signed me up for dance classes and soccer and basketball. whenever we went to the doctor together she would ask what to do differently and how i could get my nutrition in so i could develop properly while not gaining excess weight. she did what they said. my dad was usually at work but he was always concerned too. and yet i was still overweight. (2)

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

my mom always expressed that she was concerned for me and she always mentioned that she didn’t want other people to think she didn’t care just because they saw i was the fat kid. she always said she knew the first person they would blame is the mom. so while i see your point, and i do agree more often than not parents of overweight children simply don’t care, i would also encourage you to remember that it’s not always the case. so immediately blaming the parent isn’t necessarily the right thing.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 1w

This

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1w

i fully see your point and understand where you’re coming from. i think the flaw in my logic is that it’s based on the limited examples i’ve seen in my field, in which the parent(s) are very apathetic towards the subject or encouraging of unhealthy behavior. honestly i wrote this after seeing a specific kid face trouble bc of it and while i did everything to remedy the situation and make them feel better, the parent showed no real concern and it just made me extremely sad for the child

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

in retrospect i’m more upset at the social stigma regarding the whole thing and was frustrated with feeling helpless for some of these kids sake as they’re so young. i don’t immediately jump to blaming the parent, as i said im aware of other causes but going forward will be more open minded with everything honestly

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1w

valid !!! thank you for caring ❤️❤️

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