
and anyone who says these “jokes” is a potential rapist. most of them don’t give women agency, or if they do it’s transitory bc they have consent blindness. they say that they would never be a rapist, and they don’t know that they’ve done it before and will continue to do it. they perceive it as only ‘violent’ not understanding that violence isn’t always holding women down physically. they don’t understand consent
you say “i wouldn’t ruin my life over women” in this hypothetical to show us you wouldn’t be in it as if rape affects the perpetrator more than it affects the victim. as if the consequences of the action are bigger than the gravity of the hypothetical crime. which is not helping your case.