She has no sense of personal space and doesn’t condense her items at all. We have community shared items and she has a whole cart of personal items. Her boyfriend is always over without her announcing to us when he’s going to be there so it’s a jumpscare. She also is ALWAYS in the kitchen. I feel awkward leaving my room or even going to try to make food because it’s busy. And she refuses to put up her dishes after they’re dry, I’ve seen the same plate sit there for DAYS.

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Now here’s my problem: I don’t know if my other roommates are aware of her behavior or not or if I’m just easily irritated. But I’m also a crippling people pleaser and don’t want to say anything, even though it’s actively effecting my life. Do I just grow a pair and try to ask her to communicate better or suck it up and find times to get my stuff done?

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I am going through a pretty similar situation, unfortunately my roommate has decided to start being a raging bitch after I said something abt her behavior. But I talked to the RA and we’re getting it taken care of. U definitely should have a meeting with urs it is really helpful!!

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Your roommate sounds exactly like mine last year. Like terrifyingly similar, they may be the same person haha I’m also like you and I was a major people pleaser and very scared to say anything and I procrastinated too hard on bringing it up so when it finally was, it was bad I started by asking my other roommate how they felt about her boyfriend being over and we realized we felt the same

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Communicate first and if the person can’t be an adult then bring someone into it

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