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Roommate Rants 2w
My bf keeps moving into my room without asking and then saying he isn’t comfortable in his room until I let him stay and next semester he’s rooming with his friend (who will almost exclusively stay at his gf’s place and I will be getting a random rm
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Anonymous 2w

oh girl he doesn’t seem to be the sharpest tool, he’s not respecting your boundaries, your concerns, your responsibilities (your dog), or what you want at all. you’re allowed to love him but don’t let that cloud your judgement and make you think you have to put up with all of that

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Anonymous 2w

Yeah there needs to be a sit down conversation where you lay out plainly all the reasons you can’t be at his dorm 24/7 and how he can be annoyed with it but you’re not ditching your responsibilities nor risking massive fines just because he wants to spend nights with you. Use his reaction to make decisions about you relationship as necessary.

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Anonymous 2w

And I’ve been acting sad abt this because he won’t be able to move in again, but I’m slightly relieved that we’ll be able to have a little space apart, but he keeps complaining that he’s going to be alone and telling me I should come to his room and I said I would occasionally and he pouted and said he wanted me over more, but I have a dog that I have to pay an extra 1000 a semester to have on campus with me and taking him over there kind of defeats the purpose of paying for him

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I am not leaving my dog alone for more than the time it takes for classes or work, and I’m certainly not leaving him alone overnight with a stranger on a regular basis and he got really upset about this, like to the point that he almost started crying because he realized that convincing my roommate to room with him next semester was a bad idea and will ultimately leave him lonely which he hates being.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I love him and he’s a good person but he doesn’t think through things and he gets upset when things don’t go the way he planned even when those things hinge on other people. He thought I was going to be coming over every night his rm wasn’t going to be there and when I burst that bubble, he got really upset and kept trying to bargain and I love him but I told him no, I will not sacrifice my dog’s wellbeing and care to spend the night multiple times a week.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

I will also not risk regualrly sneaking my dog into a building he’s not allowed in when I paid for him to be in the building that I like being in. One pet friendly dorm and we’ve lived in it the last four semesters, my bf wanted to go to the building with the bigger rooms and that’s fine, but I’m not following him

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