
let’s start at beginning ….she was using me as her therapist like cold calling me when i’m in class bc she was stressed and having a panic attack/ memory triggered (reference she lost her mom in december which is kinda important for this) and i went to ra to get resources to give her bc i felt she was walking over many boundaries…..and i had no space and im not her therapist.(she refuses to go to therapy free services we offer….and claims we are all adults if i want to go get help i will know )
can’t forget our fuckin roomate agreement…..where if it’s early before 8 am or late aka after 10 pm we ask if it’s okay for people to come over and if overnight guest….to then give hesds up. so when people would come over i would be like xyz is coming over and recently she’s like can u stop doing that and like go hey is it cool if so so comes over? like i’m not going to ask like i’m a child when it’s somethigg we didn’t agree on…..ALSO WHEN ICDID THE HEY IS SO SO BC I WAS ANXIOUS ABOUT PISSING
HER OFF she told me i don’t need to ask….. coolio another time when i said hey i need to do laundry tomorrow (laundry is in her bathroom) she goes can it wait till X day(aka a week) and im like no im out of clothes? (im also not asking im telling?) another instance when my friend was put on LIFE SUPPORT she’s like it’s so sudden which is traumatic for me. (WHY SRE U MAKIBG IT ABOUT URSEKF?) She also told me death of my grandpa ya know someone who raised me not my parents is not the same as her
o also i clean by vacuum mopping every week and also like wipe everything down and we agreed every other week she would vacuum and mop and i do others…and she hasn’t . it’s been me even when my friend DIED. and i’ve BEEN DEPRESSED. said she will also help me with groceries ….bc i don’t have a car she does so i have a list of stuff for her to get me and i venmo back(we agreed on it) and she hasn’t done it . once . instead she goes out get her shit even stuff i need and label it as her own.
yet i’m expected….to be there emotionally for her and avoid her triggers when she told me “idk them myself so sometimes i’ll lash out” excuse me what? i’ve been walking on eggshells and avoiding the apartment bc im afraid she’s gunna yell and throw something at me.(can we tell i come from a previous trauma emotional abuse household)
what’s even better is the instance she slammed doors scream f u in living area…she complained to my big and told her it’s a hostile living situation and didn’t spend the next night at the apartment. hey so why we going to my big ….AND i didn’t know and spent that night hiding in my room outta fear and anxiety…..like ah yes i’m the problem bc u refuse to go to caps for ur grief…..and lash out etc and in the hostile one yes yes makes sense