Anonymous #1 20w

I went to work and this girl genuinely couldn’t feed herself, despite having multiple leftovers, me telling her some food that I had that she could 100% eat, and a deli being in the same parking lot as my apartment. She then demanded that we go out to eat, despite me really not wanting to do that after coming home from work.

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Anonymous OP 20w

Is it a can’t or a won’t problem?

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Anonymous #1 20w

It’s both, she won’t take care of herself to the point where I don’t think she can. She always demands other people take care of her.

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Anonymous #2 20w

I tried to do that, but she basically throws a tantrum. She blames it on being autistic, which, by the way she has not been diagnosed with autism. Meanwhile I’ve been seeing a therapist and going to a testing facility bc they think I have smth more than just depression/anxiety

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Anonymous OP 20w

Ignore her tantrum. She’s an adult. If it’s a possibility at all, you should try getting a new roommate she doesn’t sound like someone who’s responsible enough to be a roommate.

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Anonymous #2 20w

She’s not even a roommate, she was just visiting for a few days to help me move out

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Anonymous OP 20w

Well at least it’s temporary

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Anonymous #2 20w

Yeah, we’ve been friends for 18 years, but I think it’s time that this friendship has just stopped

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Anonymous #2 20w

She also genuinely can’t follow simple instructions. I gave her the most basic instructions to start the wash once she put her stuff in, well an hour later I come out from where I’m working and she hasn’t started it because she didn’t know how. It also apparently took her 30 minutes to find the detergent that was literally sitting on top of it.

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Anonymous #3 20w

Nope. She can be picky, but I know for a fact that there was food there that she eats/likes. She has been claiming that she’s autistic, however, that’s simply not true. Or if not proven. She’s been in therapy since she was young and has other diagnosis’s, so I doubt her therapist would just NOW say autism. Apparently she was told she had a symptom and just ran with it. Meanwhile I’ve been sent to testing by my therapist after only being with him for two months for “obvious signs of some type

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Anonymous OP 20w

Of learning disorder”. I’ve also had multiple teachers/professors/fellow students point out that something is definitely off. However, I’m able to carry myself in an adult way. I have also struggled with an eating disorder throughout the entirety of college so I know the importance of having safe foods in the apartment, I checked and made sure that I had safe foods for her. Including leftovers that she had gotten the day before.

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Anonymous OP 20w

It could be an executive dysfunction disorder since sometimes people need a trigger to help them complete a task or else they “freeze” in a way. But dang I’m sorry that sounds frustrating to deal with

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Anonymous OP 20w

That is very sweet of you to do for her too😭 how has she responded when you’ve shared these frustrations with her?

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Anonymous #3 20w

I get that, but she’s completely capable of doing tasks, I know for a fact that she is. She flat out decides that whenever she’s staying with other people/hanging out with other people to, and I quote “turn off my brain”. She thinks it’s “cute” and also has flat out told me that she “wants a little space”. Which I found insulting because I’ve known people who had one that was completely triggered by trauma, and they were quite embarrassed by it.

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Anonymous OP 20w

I understand, wanting to act childish and do childish things sometimes, but saying out loud that you genuinely want something that is a way that people cope with serious trauma is insane. I’ve had something that’s somewhat similar, not really a little space but a completely different mindset due to traumatic triggers and yeah, it’s not fun and it’s awful.

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Anonymous OP 20w

Basically, she’s one of those people who seems to maybe not fetishize the idea of acting like a child but she glorify it a bit too much to be normal. At least I hope she doesn’t fetishize it.

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Anonymous #3 20w

“I’m just a girl” “I’m just a baby” “I have autism” “I have ADHD”. It doesn’t matter to her at all that I lived 21 years before getting an ADHD diagnosis and I’ve been able to adjust without help (she’s had supports for hers for over a decade), the fact that I’m also a girl, and the fact that I am legit in the process of being tested for autism. But sure she’s a special little snowflake who can’t take care of herself.

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Anonymous OP 20w

Wait yeah it’s weird to admit you’re putting a burden on someone else and make it seem quirky…like you can struggle with things without actively hurting other people. Her diet is not your responsibility. If you know her family I would reach out if you think it’s something serious or debilitating because regardless of how you feel, she is still not eating unless you’re around. That is concerning lmao

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Anonymous #3 20w

My thing is, if she’s telling me the truth, then she’s more than capable of it, but she just chooses not to think or do anything for herself when she’s around other people, including me and her boyfriend. Which by the way, I don’t know if she really has any other friends because she doesn’t do anything (as in going out). I don’t think I need to reach out to her family for this because I feel like they also know based off the way they act

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Anonymous OP 20w

Honestly girl atp u gotta let her go for her sake and yours :/ after you get to a point like this sometimes staying makes you part of the problem

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