Anonymous OP 21h

Sadly this this is true! It’s okay to be having a bad time and have your feelings. However, it’s NOT okay to be negligent of your shared space. 🩵

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Anonymous #3 17h

My roommates just act passive aggressive when I ask them to wash their shit

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Seriously!

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Anonymous #8 14h

this!! i also had a system in place w my roommates where we’d just communicate if we’re too overwhelmed/swamped w schoolwork to keep up so someone else could cover instead of the apartment getting nasty (ofc w the expectation being that there’s a reasonable balance and frequency of asking another person to cover their chores)

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Anonymous #3 14h

I communicate. Asked her to clean pointed out exactly what I was talking about. Asked her to do it soon. She did it 5 days later(reminded her once), she did it half assed. But most of the time she says she’s gonna do it but never does.

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Anonymous #12 14h

I disagree ask me how ik😭 nah don’t. But obviously it’s a spectrum but that doesn’t change the fact that she chose to rent, chose to go to school here (college town), but doesn’t want any responsibility that comes with it and that’s not fair to the ppl who has to pick up the slack. She could be my 13th reason but I got my shit together and a system in place BEFORE I came here I can stay in a good mental. So again it’s not fair to me.

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Anonymous #11 13h

We are trying a chore chart personally I don’t need one but they did (I have multiple roommates) and it changed absolutely nothing. They picked their own schedule and simply just won’t clean. But it’s not rlly the communal chores that’s a problem. I’ll clean the kitchen, they will go cook something and then that’s it. Ingredients stay out, nothing wiped down, dishes out for weeks, trash and scraps left. They just cook then up and leave.

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Anonymous #11 13h

But idk when I’m overwhelmed I do my best to make sure my actions aren’t also overwhelming others so like with ur system it would be me helping them out w nothing to show for it. Which I already have to do.

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Damn I feel bad for your poor starved brain cells 😭😭😭 ignorance about mental illness will never cease to amaze me, it's so easy to learn

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Anonymous OP 13h

A lot of the time counseling is free on campuses

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Y'all keep disliking me without even knowing the context. #9 was bashing people with mental illness saying they're just whiny bitches and harassing me for calling him out. He was reported and his posts were deleted because they were hateful and rude.

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Anonymous #6 11h

I’ll try and hint at it

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Anonymous #6 11h

The mold is so relatable unfortunately. And that’s wild hopefully she starts to make better choices cause 30 is crazy

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Anonymous #12 11h

This one omg people don't know it's a genuine disability, not something you can just lifehack your way out of

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Anonymous #6 11h

It sounds like this person has a genuine disability and needs help. People with depression don't neglect their lives for fun or because they're "angry at the world," they do it because they physically can't. Please educate yourself, it's not that hard

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Anonymous #13 11h

Depression is a failure of executive functioning and dopamine regulation, not a motor deficit. They are not 'physically' incapable of washing a dish-they just lack the drive to initiate the task. Throwing around terms like 'genuine disability' to excuse someone turning a communal space into a health issue for other occupants just proves you don't actually understand the mechanics of the illness you're trying to defend. Ironic.

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Anonymous #10 11h

Bro what the fuck 😭 I was exaggerating, I wasn't saying they literally lack motor functions. It sounds like you just wanna sound smart and dismiss people's real world issues. I'm not saying people shouldn't be responsible for themselves, but for many, it's not easy as a life hack or a pep talk. You completely ignored the entire point of my comment and zeroed in on one word.

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Anonymous #6 11h

Well sounds like she’s hoping one of them will kill her so she doesn’t have to do it depression have a lot of definition but none of them really describe how that person feel I used to do that to open I will meet a bad one to kill me its a hard situation hope they get better soon tho

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Anonymous #13 10h

Backpedaling to 'I was exaggerating' right after telling people to 'educate themselves' is certainly a choice. Rich, coming from you, lol. I didn't zero in on one word; I zeroed in on the excuse you (tried) used to absolve someone of basic accountability. No one said a pep talk cures depression. But having a mental illness doesn't give you a free pass to subject roommates to a biohazard.

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Anonymous #10 10h

And when did I say having mental illness gave anyone a free pass for anything? You're using a lot of words you seem to not know the meaning of. I was saying their roommate needed help and that depression isn't just "being angry at the world." When did I say she had a free pass? Still not beating the "I wanted to sound smart" allegations.

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Looks like someone is just disliking my comments without anything real or substantive to add to the conversation. Shows how much y'all actually know.

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Anonymous #10 10h

Oh and yeah, depression IS a genuine disability and it CAN be an excuse for people not being able to take care of themselves or their spaces. That does NOT make it a "free pass," it means they're sick and in need of serious help. That doesn't mean they don't have responsibility for their actions, but it's more complicated than someone just needing to willpower their way out of it. It's a serious medical condition that requires a lot of support and understanding.

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Anonymous #13 10h

Saying someone is physically incapable of a task inherently removes their accountability for it. That is a free pass. It’s so fucking hilarious that youre accusing me of not knowing the meaning of words immediately after you were forced to admit you didn't know the difference between physical inability and executive dysfunction.

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Anonymous #13 10h

You're allowed to be frustrated with someone for being unable to care for themselves and a communal space, but being mad at them and telling them it's just "being angry at the world" does less than nothing to help your situation. Except you're a yik yak user, so obviously your thought process is not nuanced enough to be able to do that.

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Anonymous #13 10h

It's ok I got u love. You can try to frame this as me just wanting to argue or sound smartt, but the reality is you spoke confidently about a pathology you don't understand, got corrected, and are now upset about it.

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Anonymous #10 10h

It's so fucking hilarious that all you can do is zero in on one word because you know you have no real argument 🤭🤭🤭

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Anonymous #10 10h

Saying it CAN be an excuse but doesn't mean they don't have responsibility is an oxymoron. If an illness is used as an excuse to completely avoid a required roommate obligation, it is functioning as a free pass. No one argued they don't need support; I argued that their need for support doesn't negate their accountability for creating a biohazard. You just agreed with me.

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Anonymous #10 10h

I deleted my comment so I could rephrase it more helpfully. You showing the comment I removed does nothing to help your argument. In fact, I stand by what I said. I just know you're not very bright so I thought I'd make it a little clearer.

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Anonymous #10 10h

Yeah you genuinely have no capacity for nuanced thought. You can have an excuse for something while still taking full accountability. It's like calling out sick to school but still doing your homework. Does that clear anything up for you, or do I need to bring out the crayons?

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Anonymous #10 10h

And I "agree" with you because you entirely misunderstood the point of what I said in the first place. Did you know when your friends disappeared for 8 hours every day when you were a kid, they were going to school?

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Anonymous #13 10h

You just tried to dismiss my intelligence by calling me a Yik Yak user while literally using Yik Yak to send this message. That complete lack of self-awareness perfectly explains why you couldn't keep your own argument straight. Girl, goodnight. Someone needs several modal logic and critical thinking classes to supplement their obviously lacking deductive reasoning and comprehension abilities.

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Anonymous #10 10h

It's called irony oh my god 😭😭😭 and no, that's not "backpedaling," you're just incapable of understanding a joke. And yes, I can see you used so many big words. You're very smart! Very smart indeed! Goodnight my little scholar!

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Anonymous #13 10h

Good night, stupid 🤣. Anyone with sense who reads this exchange will realize whose lightbulb is actually about to go out.

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Anonymous #10 8h

But she was right tho 👀

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Anonymous #10 8h

Her original statement would make 100% sense (some one diagnose with depression) if instead of “physical” she put “mental” there many forms one were people genuinely can’t bring themselves to do what’s best for there health. No it’s not a “free pass” but if that’s what she actually has that shit is serious, but for the roommate going through that I would say talk to her about how uncomfortable u are with her cleaning and that may actually give her the push they need or tell property manager

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Anonymous #18 5h

And? That’s sad and all but just because you’re feeling sad and in a funk doesn’t mean everyone else should have to live in a dirty ass space

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Anonymous OP 5h

Girl move out you’re genuinely so fucking annoying

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Anonymous #19 5h

It doesn’t mean you should judge them either

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Anonymous #18 5h

In a perfect world, sure-zero judgement. But I’m sure anyone living in a space (which they help pay for) dirty enough to make them confide in strangers ONLINE, would judge. They have every right to be upset

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Anonymous #17 3h

I love how you assumed I'm a girl for some reason. I exaggerated to show the weight of how debilitating depression can be. It can really feel like you're physically incapable of doing things even though your body is literally capable and the block is in your brain. But a brain block can be as real and debilitating as a physical block.

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Anonymous #19 3h

Depression isn't just "feeling sad and in a funk." It can be genuinely debilitating for some as your brain is literally not making or absorbing essential hormones it needs to function

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Anonymous #17 2h

Ok, cool. You guys are the ones studying psychopathology 👍😊. Everything I said can be verified with a simple Google search or by referencing the DSM-5.

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Anonymous #17 2h

I love it when y'all make arguments using limited-scope anecdotal claims, and you know what? Good for you. I hope you get better 👍

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