Roommate Rants on Sidechat | Does my roommate never get tired of hanging out with her boyfriend all the time? I swear they are together 24/7 and he sleeps over every night, like do you not want to just rot alone ever?

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Roommate Rants 1w

Does my roommate never get tired of hanging out with her boyfriend all the time? I swear they are together 24/7 and he sleeps over every night, like do you not want to just rot alone ever?

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Anonymous 1w

usually people actually like their boyfriends and want to spend time with them

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Anonymous 1w

As someone that is almost in a 7 year relationship I love seeing my boyfriend as much as possible. Maybe it’s a you issue and not a roommate issue. I totally get not wanting to see her boyfriend if you dorm together but if yall have your own room and space not sure why you’re complaining.

Anonymous 1w

They’re hating but I get you. It’s not normal to be with someone 24/7 and as a roommate she should be more considerate of you too

Anonymous 1w

No OP is right. It’s weird to be that attached to someone. It’s one thing if they have their own place but even then, there’s a limit.

Anonymous 1w

Had a roommate like that… shoulda charged the bf rent and utilities

Anonymous 1w

Are y’all allowed to have guests over that frequently? Someone sleeping over every night means the person is living there. No way that’s allowed. If y’all have separate rooms and bathrooms, it might not be a big deal. But if yall are sharing space, I would put an end to it immediately. I already hate the idea of sharing a bathroom with one person. You’re not gonna force another roommate(a man for that matter) down my throat. Half of them don’t even know how to pee right.

Anonymous 1w

Girl I am in the exact same situation but I’ve got 2 of em! Shit never ends and it’s such a hostile environment bc it feels like I’m living in their apartment when I literally pay to be here. I only have my bf over on weekends and he also thinks it’s weird because we value our alone time as much as we do our together time. I think it’s a maturity thing atp

Anonymous 1w

I love my boyfriend with my whole heart but we don’t see each other every weekend and it’s great. My roommate has to spend every moment with hers bc he cheats and she doesn’t trust him. They also fight every minute of the day. It’s weird.

Anonymous 1w

i spend as much time as possible with my bf which usually winds up being 4-6 days of the week. but since we both have, yknow, actual lives, most of that time is in the evening. we always spend the night when we do hang out and we alternate whose house we stay at because he has a housemate. that said, i do enjoy spending like 90% of my freetime with my bf even if we’re just in the same space doing separate things. it is pretty normal but it’s also not bad to prefer alone time.

Anonymous 1w

one of my roommate is the exact same way. im sitting here wondering if you’re one of my roommates🤣

Anonymous 1w

Do you hear them fuck

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Anonymous

#2 1w

Well she paid for that room just as much as you get a privacy curtains as long as she is on her side she can do what ever she wants

Anonymous

#3 1w

Yeah it’s just a situational thing since we don’t have much context. I’m just assuming they have their own rooms but if they don’t and they share the same space I can see how it can be frustrating

Anonymous

#2 1w

Yes everyday is a bit much but at the end of the day everyone is grown it’s best if they share a room to get a privacy curtain so they don’t see one another. If she has her own room then it’s not her concern as long as he isn’t being dirty and loud or messing up the roomate space

Anonymous

#3 1w

Yeah I totally agree! Also if he’s not friendly either I can see how it can be an uncomfortable situation for OP assuming OP is a female. As a woman myself I’d hope that if I shared a space with a girl that has a bf that’s constantly coming over is at least friendly towards me

Anonymous

#2 1w

Totally agree with this!!!

Anonymous

#2 1w

Just to clear it up, we do have our own rooms and it’s a 4bed 4bath apt. It’s just annoying because they are always at our place and not his, plus they cook a lot and never clean the kitchen so it just gets annoying. Obviously it’s great she has someone she likes so much, I’m not hating on that

Anonymous

#4 1w

My bf stay over sometimes but he does chores around the apartment…. Trash dishes and he stays quiet

Anonymous

OP 1w

I totally get being frustrated with the lack of cleaning! Yall should probably have a meeting about that because I have some crazy ass roommates and I would also document these issues too.

Anonymous

OP 1w

Look honestly set boundaries now you have another semester tell her if he don’t clean soon as they don’t cooking not before the eat it’s a problem and you will call reslife. He is not a resident there. If he is always in her room cool can’t do nothing about that but common area tell her they need to be respectful

Anonymous

#2 1w

Unfortunately we’ve had multiple meetings, I’ve sent multiple texts, and talked to her multiple times. She just doesn’t listen and it’s not entirely the bf’s fault but it’s his cooking/dishes she doesn’t clean. Technically our lease says guests can only stay up to three days in a row but I feel like that’s the last resort cause we still need to live together for another semester.

Anonymous

OP 1w

Have you threatened you would call them ?

Anonymous

#3 1w

Not yet, again, it’s not really the fact that he’s over, it’s just the messiness of the common area. I honestly don’t know what else to do about that because I’ve tried…

Anonymous

OP 1w

That totally sucks and I’ve been there with shitty roommates! I’m assuming this is a dorm at a university. If possible I’d bring this up to the RA immediately with pictures of the dirty dishes and screenshots of messages. I would also at least get one of the other two roommates to complain with you!

Anonymous

OP 1w

Ngl I had people like this just start throwing stuff away if it is left in the common area

Anonymous

#2 1w

Unfortunately it’s off campus housing so no ra, best I can do is the front desk but we are all paying so they can’t do anything. One of the roommates just lets it happen but it’s fine cause she doesn’t cause the mess, the other agrees with me and again, we have tried talking about it but no luck.

Anonymous

OP 1w

I hate that. At least you only got to deal with it one more semester babe! Praying that it gets better or after the semester you can get a better roommate.

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Anonymous

#5 1w

wtaf is wrong w u

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Anonymous

OP 1w

I’d put my foot down and tell her the situation needs to be fixed or we will take it higher up. It’s not ur job to clean after her boyfriend

Anonymous

#10 1w

Also, if this is an apartment and not a dorm room, it also means that your utility bills will be higher. They should be covering 2/3 of the utilities for the time he has been there.

Anonymous

#11 1w

Thank you! Maybe I just value my alone time but I really cannot see myself hanging out with anyone 24/7, even my friends

Anonymous

#1 1w

yea but coming over every night is excessive and annoying

Anonymous

OP 1w

it’s time to start being petty tbh. i started leaving my old roommate’s dishes and mess on her bed that she would leave for days and she straightened up realll quick. you should try that, seriously. or you and your other roommates can stop cleaning up after them. see what happens

Anonymous

#10 1w

Luckily we all have our own rooms and bathrooms but we do share a living room and kitchen. At this point it’s just the mess they make in the kitchen because they are the only ones who ever cook so I know the dishes are theirs

Anonymous

OP 1w

dishes on her bed. i guarantee something will change🥳

Anonymous

#12 1w

I’m assuming there newish (like within a year) into a relationship. That’s normal

Anonymous

OP 1w

I totally get wanting to be with your boyfriend a lot, but 24/7 is insane. I had a friend who pretty much lived with her bf and was with him all the time and he basically took over her whole life. That’s literally so unhealthy

Anonymous

#14 1w

I believe they got together at the beginning of the semester so it’s not been super long so I understand lots of hanging out, but our rent is very expensive and he’s basically living here for free

Anonymous

#9 1w

That would be funny but I don’t think my roommates use yikyak 😭

Anonymous

OP 1w

oh for free? he’ll nah

Anonymous

OP 1w

honestly, i was like that too and couldn’t comprehend why anyone would want to be around their partner 24/7 until i met my fiancé and since the day we met i literally cannot get enough of that man.

Anonymous

#11 1w

I think that says more about that individual couple then it does about living together

Anonymous

#17 1w

also like people who spend literally every possible moment with their partners, imo, need hobbies and more active social lives. they also have to learn to be ok being alone and bored, especially if they get anxious or upset without their partner around. i choose to spend most of my freetime with my bf but that doesnt include time i have dedicated to cooking, baking, taking care of myself and my home, playing video games, and studying. in other words ur roommate probably has a normal attachment-

Anonymous

#17 1w

- but needs more things to do other than laze around. same for him, especially bc hes the one visiting. but dont judge them for it. and if it bothers you just let them know! i would expect my bf’s housemate to be upfront and tell me if he felt like i was encroaching on his space.