Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 1w

yes exactly and when I called him out asking if he’s reacting this way bc he has feelings for me, he denies it. But he also won’t understand that I’m an adult and my own person and I’m not obligated to text him goodnight or reply to his text by the end of the night…

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Anonymous OP 1w

All you can really do atp is lay it all out for him over text that 1. You only see him as a friend and that will not change 2. Wanting goodnight texts is a boyfriend/dating privilege that he is not eligible for 3. Continuing to insist on this matter will only lead to the friendship being damaged because you will not negotiate about this You may need to also look into living with someone else once the lease is over especially if he continues after you’ve clearly set this boundary.

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Anonymous #2 1w

yup

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Anonymous OP 1w

If he wants to play the quiet game in an attempt to make you feel bad let him. He’s the one trying to force a change in relationship status between you without clear communication.

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Anonymous #2 1w

I wouldn’t be surprised if he’s getting “advice” from certain forums and podcasters

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 1w

eh I don’t think so, he’s kind of a normie and not really perpetually online (outside of tiktok)

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 1w

yes I told him #2. for #3, it’s certainly feeling like that at this point. He goes on hookups with others all the time, but if I go on a hu, his demeanor def changes towards me for a bit as if he’s jealous. Our lease ends June 1st so I’m looking into options now bc I’m so fed up

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Anonymous OP 1w

A lot of those groups are on TikTok so it’s still possible

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Anonymous OP 1w

You need #1 because without in his head there’s a door open that could lead to a romantic relationship. You need to close that door.

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Anonymous OP 1w

good lol

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Anonymous OP 1w

Seriously just lay out how you feel about him and the situation and tell him you’re not gonna respond to nor apologize for him for him hurting his own feelings. He needs to get a grip and understand you are not interested in anything more than a normal friendship.

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 1w

I HAVE but he then just retorts that I’m the one that’s getting defensive and that I’m being inconsiderate of his feelings… I let him say he had to say and I just left it at that, there’s no point in me trying to continue to go in circles with him

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Anonymous OP 6d

Yeah that’s all you can do is stop engaging in his nonsense. All this talk of his feelings and he hasn’t even considered yours

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