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Roommate Rants 3w
Trying to figure out how to call my roommate on her shit when she can’t take accountability for her actions and when people get upset with her she either tries to pull the victim card or will claim they’re being “immature”
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Anonymous 3w

Do it in a recorded manner (texts or email) and stay on topic. For example “This has nothing to do with (insert victim card here) I just need you to take accountability” or “You can call me immature if you want but that doesn’t change the fact that you need to take accountability”. Don’t let her derail the conversation.

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Anonymous 3w

she has told me a couple different times “you’ll never be as emotionally mature as I am, you’re close but you’ll never be on my level” which is brave coming from a grown adult who has to be told to clean up her own messes and has to be told to do her chores

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Anonymous replying to -> amethyst_popping_bottles 3w

thank you! I tried calling her out in text, then she tried to gaslight me about my own words. I showed her what I actually said and then she pulls the “oh well that’s not what I meant”. Thank god there is a house full of people, we are doing another house meeting to call her on her shit because we are all so fed up. It sucks because her and I used to be really close friends- I cannot continue to put up with this behavior. I appreciate the advice!!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

If there are more people in the house, I suggest you get the rest of them on board with using this method on the problem roommate so she has no room to make excuses. She might try to claim that y’all are bullying her but assuming you’re not in a situation with an RA or the like there’s not much she can do with that accusation.

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Anonymous replying to -> amethyst_popping_bottles 3w

we definitely tried last house meeting and she got really defensive and pulled the whole “well if people have a problem with me they can bring it up to me in messages”. However this new house meeting we are being way more direct. She has improved in some ways (sometimes does dishes), but there is so much shit that we had to plan a house meeting (hopefully tomorrow) and we’re all standing together. I’ve very thankful the rest of the house is amazing (all of us are moving out together after this

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

*this lease ends). I really appreciate your advice and I can only pray it works!!

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 3w

No problem! Oh, and if she tries to pull the “bring it up to me in messages” thing again, pull out the messages you’ve sent to her that she’s clearly ignored. Anything she tries to gaslight y’all about that you have receipts for, show it. People like her hate it when you have proof.

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Anonymous replying to -> amethyst_popping_bottles 3w

she does absolutely hate when we have proof which is why were all coming together to call her shit! She’s going to get pissy with us but honestly I’d rather that then all of us have continued resentment which would ultimately make it worse

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