Anonymous #1 22h

They’ve destroyed necklaces, decorative bowls, my hamper, things my friends have made for me, they’ve started shredded my couch. I agreed to the cat if my roommate would actually take care of it like they promised, but instead they were gone for the weekend and are often gone when my things are destroyed. The issue is the fact that the cat is still destroying stuff and it’s been over a year. There’s not a ton of space in my apartment, and my roommate takes up most of our closet.

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Anonymous #1 22h

For necklaces I’d advise buying a shelf you can hang (pretty cheap on amazon) and place it where the cat can’t get it. The hamper and couch are part of owning a cat, they will claw what they find comfortable and they can’t always control it (not saying they’re doing all they should be but that’s a cat thing). Do you have a separate room or a shared room? How old is this cat?

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Anonymous #1 22h

I can’t tell from what you’ve said if this is extraneous damage or regular cat shit tbh

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Anonymous #1 22h

Also a cat cooped up in a dorm or apartment will be under stimulated more often than not and will find whatever it needs to be entertained

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Anonymous #1 21h

I agree, and it’s the pet owners responsibility to make sure the cat is properly stimulated to not destroy shit. She got the cat in this apartment knowing how small it is and said she would do the work to keep the cat but hasn’t. She got a kitten and the cat is now almost 2, and if you have a kitten you shouldnt be leaving 3 times a week or for weekends frequently, you should be taking care of ur kitten. Our bedroom is shared, so there is no way for me to separate from the cat.

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Anonymous OP 21h

When we got the cat we agreed the cat wouldnt be on the counters. After 6 months, I left for two weeks to volunteer somewhere without wifi and when I came back my roommate was letting the cat walk on the counters. This is a problem with the owner not actually taking responsibility for her cat. Because she got a girlfriend a month after she got the cat and was not home enough to actually train or give her attention so now she damages things to get attention.

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Anonymous OP 20h

So you can’t train a cat like that, cats are solitary, not as highly motivated by food in my experience or your approval, I think it’s unreasonable of you to expect her to train her cat especially when she’s a new pet owner and cat training isn’t well taught or even typically talked about. You also got a cat and kitten at the most hyper times of their lives so this type of behavior will continue until they are older. I would look into alternatives to living because it honestly sounds like

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Anonymous #1 20h

You didn’t understand what having a cat would entail and it is destroying your shit. This all sounds like typical cat behavior and you agreeing to have a cat in the house means you too are responsible for contributing to training and giving attention, not fully but you do own part of the blame for their understimulation, cats will take what they’re allowed so just find a way to protect your shit and communicate to your roomie about what they need to do

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Anonymous #1 20h

Lol… she’s not a new pet owner. She grew up with cats that were indoor/outdoor. She grew up with dogs too. This cat specifically is food motivated and is also teetering on obesity. I shouldn’t have okayed a kitten but she was very adamant she wanted a kitten and said she’d take care of it. This was all stuff we talked about before and she said she wanted to train the cat and never did. This is not my cat! I made it clear I wouldn’t help if I didnt want to and they agreed.

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Anonymous OP 20h

Sounds like you wanted to enjoy the benefits of a cat without having to take care of it and that’s perfectly fine but it seems like you just need to move out, this is not really gonna change. Also just because a cat is motivated to eat it doesn’t mean it’s motivated to work for it

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 18h

I get there’s a lot of animal lovers in here, but from the sound of it OP and her roommate share a room and the apartment is too small for there to be any place for OP to put their stuff that the cat can’t get to. The roommate knows this is an issue and has made claims that she will fix it but as of yet has not done anything to actually fix the behavior. I’m not saying the cat needs to go to the shelter, but the cat cannot stay in the apartment anymore, not as long as the roommate neglects their

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 18h

training. Maybe the parents are an option? I also don’t get why every other comment in this thread is being downvoted.

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Anonymous #3 17h

unfortunately, you and I are in similar situations where your stuff (or in my case, my animals) is at risk because she cannot discipline her cat. This means you have to put your stuff in the best place it can be to be the most safe. You were not the perspective cat owner so you shouldn’t have been the one thinking about space and stuff. you thought she had fully planned that issue out and clearly that thought had not been put in,

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Anonymous #3 17h

Sidenote, depending on how much space there is in that apartment, you need to tell her that keeping her cat in that area is legally considered animal abuse your state, and that if she is keeping the cat living with her then she needs to find a different living situation for the cat’s well-being

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