Anonymous #1 1d

Because they drag in mud, grass, shit, piss, and all sorts of bacteria that gets everywhere. The fact that you’re questioning that is appalling. It’s standard cleanliness and I don’t understand how some people wear shoes into their rooms and even their BEDS

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Anonymous OP 1d

I mean I get what you’re saying but it’s a shared space so if they don’t want to take their shoes off that’s fine that’s not an issue to complain about but cleaning after yourself is non-negotiable

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Anonymous OP 1d

Some people didn’t grow up that way. I get it, but I always grew up in a shoes allowed home and I’ve only met a few people that take their shoes off when they enter their home.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Maybe just have a conversation about it instead of shit talking anonymously. People live different lives and grow up in different environments. No need to be so hostile especially when others are trying to understand your reasoning jfc

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Anonymous #3 1d

I did. I’m ’talking shit’ on here because they ignored our agreement to have a shoes of household. We clearly expressed our concern in them wearing shoes in the apartment and they agreed and said they would no longer do it. A week later they were wearing shoes in the apartment again and refuse to see an issue with it

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Anonymous OP 1d

Well yall can’t make them take them off tho cause it’s their house as well yall either gotta suck it up and let them do what they want or pay all the bills and be the boss of the apt that’s the only way you can make the shoe rule strict

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Anonymous OP 1d

Okay. We didn’t know that. You calling people “appalling” for no real reason is shitty behavior. I understand being upset but taking it out on people who had nothing to do with it is not the way to make things better. Take a step back and try to understand that they literally GREW UP in a shoes household so that’s not going to change overnight. You’re just being an asshole about it

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Anonymous OP 1d

I get you don't want him to have shoes, I know that's a cultural thing, but if he wants to wear shoes in his living space he can. It's weird he told you he would take them off if he didn't want to but makes me think you pressured him into saying that, sounds like he really dosent want to take his shoes off. If he pays rent, he's allowed to do that.

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Anonymous #4 1d

Where tf did you get that context? That never happened. We sat down, had a roommate meeting, and they all agreed to it. Not once did I say anything about pressuring them. It was an honest open conversation and they agreed. Period. A week later they decide to break that agreement? How does that add up? Not to mention having shoes on the couch which is just a whole other topic.

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Anonymous OP 1d

Just because they agreed when they clearly didn't want to I'd assume they felt pressured to in that moment. Even if you didn't think you were pressuring, it's likely they felt pressured. Just let them wear their shoes in their space, you can take yours off in your space. You can both do as you please in a shared space. Very simple.

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Anonymous OP 1d

"We clearly expressed our concern.. said they would no longer do it" sounds like they wanted to stop talking with you so they agreed to end the conversation with no intention of allowing you to tell them what to do with their feet.

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not a typo, nothing was spelling incorrectly. that's what you meant, that's how i interpreted it. not saying you're in the wrong for asking just let them wear the shoes they clearly want to.

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Anonymous #6 22h

I literally said we had a roommate meeting and they AGREED to it without any issues. They even said it’s a good idea with winter coming up. Not even a week later they’re tracking dirt and shit through the place

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Anonymous OP 22h

text them and say "hey at the meeting we agreed to keep our shoes off, and i would really appreciate if you could adhere to this expectation". this isn't that big of a deal if you actually talk to your roommates and hold them to the standards you all agreed to

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Anonymous OP 20h

Don’t let them silence u wearing shoes inside is not it and especially if it’s carpet it’s just gross

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Anonymous #7 12h

being in college and age has nothing to do with it. many people were raised wearing shoes in the house, it’s extremely common and a personal preference

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Anonymous #5 9h

I was raised wearing shoes in the house but that doesn’t make it clean. I just don’t understand all the resistance it’s like a small easy thing you can do and it makes a huge difference in cleanliness. Like wouldn’t yall rather take off your shoes real quick when coming inside then have to mop or vacuum way more or just live with dirty floors?

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Anonymous #7 9h

I feel like within reason people should conform to the cleaner roommates preferences. Like I was raised often leaving dishes in the sink until the end of the day and not putting them straight in the dishwasher / washing then right away, but my roommate came from a cleaner house and so I conform to her preference bc it’s a good habit for me anyways and it keeps the space clean and dishes available for everyone. I feel like this is the same thing and yall r acting like brats abt it

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