Roommate Rants on Sidechat | is it bad that i honestly lost respect for my roommate bc of like the way she acted during the first month. had sex in the room while i was there, hits my pen when im gone, messy asf. like tbh i enjoy her being gone for class or friends ykwim

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Roommate Rants 15w

is it bad that i honestly lost respect for my roommate bc of like the way she acted during the first month. had sex in the room while i was there, hits my pen when im gone, messy asf. like tbh i enjoy her being gone for class or friends ykwim

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Anonymous 15w

Having sex in the room with you is a form of SA and you should talk to Title IX, that’s so disgusting of her

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Anonymous 15w

report her for the title ix and usage of weed

Anonymous 15w

My old roommate had sex while I was in there twice, the second time she vomited in the middle of the floor. You’re absolutely right to lose respect for her, and that is a form of sexual harassment. I’d either move out (that’s what my RA told me to do :/) or bring it up with the RA or the housing association, either way don’t just let it happen anymore, it’ll only get worse

Anonymous 15w

Total and complete disrespect for your belongings and you as a person if shes doing allat while you’re present in the room. She needs to be reported

Anonymous 15w

having sex while ur in there is so insane wth

Anonymous 15w

I mean I would be surprised if you didn’t

Anonymous 15w

YOUR FEELINGS ARE SO VALID

Anonymous 15w

Like in the same room??

Anonymous 15w

Mines do the same shit too

Anonymous

#2 15w

+ using ur stuff when u said not to that's extremely odd lol

Anonymous

#1 15w

It’s sexual harassment not assault.

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Anonymous

#4 15w

Google is free babe

Anonymous

#1 15w

You’re right, it is.

Anonymous

#1 15w

In case Wikipedia is not a good source for you.

Anonymous

#4 15w

Is having sex not a sexual act you’re also being subjected to if they’re doing it in front of you without your consent?

Anonymous

#1 15w

Sexual assault requires you be physically touching the other person, or they physically touch you. What OP is describing is gross and definitely title IX worthy, but not legally assault.

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Anonymous

#6 15w

so our RA quit our hall doesnt have one until we get a new one. so ive been stuck for two months. but shes gotten better bc ive spoken to her a few times

Anonymous

#7 15w

Oh ok

Anonymous

OP 15w

That sucks 😭 yeah it’s good you talked with her at least

Anonymous

#1 15w

Next time don’t use a word if you don’t absolutely know what it means.

Anonymous

OP 15w

You can still talk to another RA or an RLC (don’t know if it’s called something else at other campuses but your RA’s boss)

Anonymous

#4 15w

you can correct someone about something without being a twat “Next time don’t use a word of you don’t absolutely know what it means.” wasn’t necessary and “absolutely” was even more unnecessary

Anonymous

#11 15w

Thank you! I’ve heard from multiple others that it’s form of SA legally, my bad for not knowing everything ig🫠

Anonymous

#2 15w

Especially putting her MOUTH ON IT?!?! And the sex thing. Just absolutely wild behavior.

Anonymous

#11 15w

She was rude to me first telling me that “google is free babe” so I gave the same energy back.

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Anonymous

#1 15w

You were rude to me first, I returned the energy. It’s also a pet peeve of mine when someone uses a word without knowing what it means. Especially a word as serious as sexual assault, because it takes the real meaning out of it, and when actual SA happens people won’t understand what it truly represents.

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Anonymous

#1 15w

It can be seen as both. Sexual harassment because the bad roommate created a hostile environment. Sexual assault because, even though OP wasn’t explicitly touched sexually, that bad roommate essentially involved her in their sexual acts. Unwillingly exposing someone to sex is sexual assault.

Anonymous

#14 15w

We’re speaking in a legal sense. Legally it would be harassment. They wouldn’t see it as an assault.

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Anonymous

#14 15w

Or at least I was speaking in a legal sense…

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Anonymous

#4 15w

In a legal sense, a case can be made for both since the bad roommate directly involved OP in her sexual act by subjecting her to watch it without her consent.

Anonymous

#14 15w

According to what I found (this is the only thing that directly answers my question). All of the “characteristics” that go with SA require force, control, or threatening. She’s not being forced to watch, she can leave the room. Which is why it’s harassment, instead.

Anonymous

#4 15w

True, but we don’t know the circumstances that this exactly happened. We can’t say for certain they weren’t forced, pressured, manipulated to watch, or for some reason was unable to leave the room. That’s why I was saying an argument can be made for both. Without knowing the details (which I don’t want know OP 😭🙏), we can’t say for certain if it was just sexual harassment or both.

Anonymous

#14 15w

And note the words “sexual act” in the second one. She’s not physically intimate by watching someone have sex in the same room. She’s just being harassed…Which is still disgusting. 🤢

Anonymous

#14 15w

True, true.

Anonymous

#4 15w

Watching is still a sexual act in some cases, since people can have fetishizes for that, and roping a third party into your fetish is sexual assault. OP might not’ve been an active participant, but they were involved directly.

Anonymous

#14 15w

For sure. Just not in this one cause she can leave the room.

Anonymous

#14 15w

But of course like you said we don’t know that for sure so 🤷🏾‍♀️