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yall weird asf for getting mad that your roommate stays in the room they are paying for “too much” god forbid not everyone wants to go party every night

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Anonymous 8w

it’s weird and creepy imo because why do you care so much…like it’s THEIR space too

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Anonymous 8w

If you care that much then you should’ve gotten a private dorm tbh

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Anonymous 8w

Ion blame the person in the room it’d just be annoying not being able to be alone ever

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Anonymous 8w

As someone who did often lurk in the dorm all the time, I struggle with friendships, even with my really close friends especially at the beginning of the year after coming back from summer, plus i have depression and just run out of battery. I know I’m in the room all the time, I’m sorry, but I paid to be here and I’m tired and my bed is here.

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Anonymous 8w

my thing is being in the dorm literally 25/8, like you only leave to go eat and you come right back to eat your food in the room. i never have alone time.

Anonymous 8w

Omg we have this argument every semester

Anonymous 8w

Ok but like what if your roommate that’s always in the room won’t let you sleep and constantly talks to you when you obviously want to be left alone

Anonymous 8w

if you share a room you are not entitled to alone time in the room at all. both of you have every right to be there at any time because it is the room you are paying for the right to live in. unless you both mutually agree to give each other alone time, you should not expect to have any by default. It is so fucking clear that some of you are rich kids who've never had to share a room before because another person's need to rest in their room automatically overrides your desire to be alone.

Anonymous 8w

i think people only care when they don’t really like their roommate so they feel uncomfortable by them for some reason and wanna be able to be around nobody but have nothing to do about it but complain which is real

Anonymous 8w

If you notice how much your roommate is around, how can it bother you? You are around just as much.

Anonymous 8w

ok? they probably been in there 25/8 can they bed fucking breathe they don’t even have to go to a party and as someone who roommate never leaves it’s quite annoying especially because they wanna have all these rules for me but i haven’t opened my mouth to give you very unnecessary rules but as roommates you have to share we all paid stupid amounts and if they want to room to themselves for just a day they fucking can especially if u only leave for class nd to eat and come right tf back everyday.

Anonymous 8w

Yes but also I asked her multiple times please I just need one hour alone in the dorm (she had it alone every time she asked) and she said okay, sat out in the hallway, and came in THREE TIMES throughout that hour it comes to a point where it is just being a bad roommate

Anonymous 8w

Honestly both people pay for the space and both are entitled to time alone. Being introverted doesn’t automatically mean that you get to be taking up all the space in the dorm. And both parties should be comfortable. At the end of the day, both of them are grown adults and they need to work it out on their own. Whether you’re a party person or a homebody you deserve the space you paid for. All these situations are independent and good luck to everyone.

Anonymous 8w

thank god this isn’t me and my roommate we both have social lives that don’t revolve being in the dorm 24/7😂😂😂

Anonymous 8w

while i agree, as someone who once was the roommate that stayed in the room too much, it does get to a point. you don’t have to be out all the time or go out to parties. but some people, like myself in my freshman year when i was really really depressed, literally don’t leave the room ever and skip classes to do so. it’s okay to want alone time and not be around your roommate

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Anonymous 8w

I mean how would someone know their roommate is always in there unless they are always in there too?

Anonymous 8w

Sometimes it is also nice to have some form of time to yourself in your dorm though. When they are always there I just feel perceived all the time

Anonymous 8w

one of my roommates gives me a dirty look whenever i come into the room 💀 keep in mind SHES in there more than i am, im only there for like an hour between classes and at night

Anonymous 8w

It’s not that she doesn’t party or anything bc I don’t either it’s more concerning to me at a point because she only ever leaves her room for class and to use the bathroom. I don’t want to judge or anything but I’m kind of concerned

Anonymous 8w

I not weird if that’s all they do

Anonymous 8w

What happens in their room is on them not my business unless they ask me come in and help with something

Anonymous 8w

It’s just idk go somewhere else once like how you always there

Anonymous 8w

ppl are saying that abt during the day too

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Anonymous

#1 8w

deadass it’s really not their fault that you don’t want them in their space. if they’re not bothering you tf does it matter ??

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Anonymous

#3 8w

Did you know that people pay for their dorm during the day too? As long as it isn’t affecting their life in some major terrible way it isn’t bad. This is coming from someone who was forbidden by roommate to turn on the lights or open curtains everyday because my roommate was up partying all night and slept all day btw

Anonymous

#2 8w

I would’ve taken someone who just sits in the room any day of the week so I’d be able to get ready in the morning for class without a flashlight

Anonymous

#2 8w

Not everyone can afford everything here and that is the cheapest option

Anonymous

#5 8w

Yeah well everyone can try to not be unfair towards people who also pay for the room too so if you broke, don’t bitch This coming from a broke person who had to drop 10k on her first two semesters instead of buying a car because her parents don’t financially support her xx

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Anonymous

#2 8w

It’s their space if their not on your side it’s not really your problem

Anonymous

#5 8w

Isn’t that what I just said? Are you stupid or just have a hard time listening

Anonymous

#7 8w

Valid take

Anonymous

#9 8w

alone time is not promised to you when you live with another person. maybe they enjoy being alone in the room? maybe they want to utilize the space they pay for? maybe they like their bed and their space?

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Anonymous 8w

i’m not even i was using myself as an example my home is good now thanks though as i said before its a shared room they can be as upset as they want about not being able to ever have the room to themselves if not even for an hour the bed ready to collapse let it air out

Anonymous

#11 8w

you’re so close sweetie! we all paid ridiculous amounts to be here. if someone wants to go to class, eat, and sit in their room that they pay for, that is okay!!! if you want alone time in ur room that fucking bad, ask for it! it’s really not that difficult! my roommate and i do it all the time! she likes to have her boyf over without me and i like to have recharge days when im drained so we simply say “hey! do you mind giving me the room from [insert time] to [insert time]?”

Anonymous

#12 8w

Was me till I got my own room I can solve my own problems lmao

Anonymous

OP 8w

I mean I get my alone time in library rooms/random places on campus there’s so many options It’s fine to take a sec to breathe in the dorms I mean it’s your space too, I just think there’s so many options that’s not the same tiny space here

Anonymous

#12 8w

this is different. most people in here are talking abt how their roommate is just existing in the space 24/7

Anonymous

#13 8w

no yeah i spend a lot of time in t coop and russell doing my homework bc my roommate is in the phone a lot and it drives me crazy. its really not that difficult.

Anonymous

OP 8w

girlll, i just made this point, im saying we shouldn’t have to fucking ask to be in a space alone. it should be a silent agreement at the end of the fucking day it’s a shared space don’t be hogging it, i’m only replying to yo goofy ass because it seems u want my attention, that’s so cute. if they are always in there don’t you think your roommate would want some alone time in there as well ? it doesn’t matter the time or day if yo funk city ass ain’t leave for even a small break get a single.

Anonymous

OP 8w

I get what you mean. As someone who likes their own personal space, I think people should’ve agreed to terms on personal space before this issue came up. It should be agreed that people want to have time to themselves. I know libraries exist and so do other public places but that’s just it, they’re public. I think the people complaining are the ones who simply want their own private space to fart in peace fr but hey, communication is key people don’t let it fester till you can’t take it anymore!

Anonymous

#11 8w

girl talk…this is so pathetic lmaoo

Anonymous

#15 8w

i agree mostly except you aren’t entitled to alone time when you share a room with someone. they are free to spend as much time in their space as they’d like. is it inconvenient that it’s your space too? sure. does that change the fact that they can use their side however they’d like? no

Anonymous

#11 8w

grown ass adult acting like this btw

Anonymous

#11 8w

most people who are in their room “too much” do actually leave, just their roommate happens to be gone. it’s not their fault if you’re out all the fucking time and you aren’t there when they aren’t there. if you don’t want to deal with another person living in shared space, get a single 🤷‍♀️

Anonymous

#17 8w

LITERALLY. have you ever thought they aren’t in the room 24/7, they just happen to be in there whenever you’re in there?

Anonymous

OP 8w

I disagree. When both parties are paying for this space that’s when it does become something they’re entitled to. It might not be the best but having some kind of agreement or consideration is definitely something both should have. One person shouldn’t be subjected to having no “alone time” just as much as the other shouldn’t be shunned for needed so much “alone time”. It’s all situational and totally independent

Anonymous

#2 8w

IKTR you eating them tf up

Anonymous

#9 8w

go to the bathroom or closet if you want alone time 💀

Anonymous

OP 8w

acting like what ? i just turned 18, how old u want me to act tf, stop riding me and focus on your classes.

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Anonymous

#16 8w

I think the argument is so dumb. I think ppl are allowed to want alone time. Yes I understand they pay to be there as much as you do and you’re not entitled to alone time when you live with other people but I don’t think it’s asking for to me to be like “hey can I get the room for like an hour or two to decompress”?

Anonymous

#16 8w

I think a lot of ppl feel so strongly about this because they’re the roommate who’s in the room all the time and they feel called out. I’m so grateful I got the chance to live alone last semester. I truly hope everyone who wants to can experience it because it’s nice having the space to yourself without how stressful and crazy college is

Anonymous

#22 8w

And maybe this is a hot take but I usually find the ppl who never leave are usually struggling with like depression or mental health issues more often than not. I think if your depression gets so bad you don’t leave your room for several days or weeks I think it’s worth considering if living with others is the best. Esp because they are directly impacted by that

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Anonymous

#22 8w

if you’re able to notice how often your roommate is home, then you’re also home just as often and have no room to complain lol

Anonymous

#22 8w

bro what? 😂 that’s such a reach

Anonymous

#21 8w

I don’t know why you’re calling me out directly because I don’t even have roommates but anyway

Anonymous

#21 8w

When I did have roommates I was gone a lot with friends or studying, everytime I came back my roommate was there. Not because I was home a lot but because eventually I needed to make dinner and shower genius

Anonymous

#22 8w

and the same principle applies to everyone else lol

Anonymous

#21 8w

I’m blocking you because you lack basic comprehension goodbye!

Anonymous

OP 8w

and that’s fine, but in this case we’re literally talking about people who never leave, you can walk into your room and they are still in there each time, i personally leave the room for the whole day because my roommate does have autism and i would rather be loud somewhere else plus i have a decent amount of friends being cramped in the room is not ideal. so i can definitely understand why they are in there all the time, but in general it’s okay to leave, get fresh air, and take a walk.

Anonymous

#11 8w

maybe they do all of that when you’re not home

Anonymous

#21 8w

and they blocked me for whatever reason 😂

Anonymous

#1 8w

thanks bae ☺️

Anonymous

#20 8w

then you should know that depression causes a lack of motivation and you literally can’t make yourself get up and go hello

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Anonymous

#21 8w

no unfortunately that’s not the case, i don’t mind because i am not there all the time anyway for certain reasons and i don’t want to out anymore of my roommates business. this wasn’t about me to begin with people can be upset and complain all they want to without people being complete dickheads about their opinion and go on rants about how their wrong in every reply. agree to disagree. 😛

Anonymous

#22 8w

“you’re depressed you shouldn’t live with other people” so what are they meant to do?? drop out and go home??? that’s GREAT for their mh

Anonymous

#22 8w

nobody feels “called out”. you can’t feel called out when you aren’t doing anything wrong??

Anonymous

#11 8w

i’m just saying in general tho. if you’re out all day, then you don’t really know whether they leave the house or not, unless they tell you. just bc you see them every time you come back doesn’t mean they were in there the whole time. it’s possible that they left when you weren’t even home. that’s all i’m saying

Anonymous

OP 8w

they just mad they don’t get any alone time. and if it was that important to them, then they should’ve never chose to live with roommates 😭

Anonymous

#21 8w

or like talk to your roommate bro 😭😭😭 we are ADULTS.

Anonymous

OP 8w

literally 😂

Anonymous

#23 8w

exactlyyyy

Anonymous

#23 8w

they’re like “they’re always there when i’m there!!” okay sooooo you’re also there???

Anonymous

#22 8w

what does staying in the room between classes have to do with depression…nobody ever said anything like that omg you’re so desperate for a own you’re inventing shit nobody was even talking about

Anonymous

#1 8w

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Anonymous

OP 8w

On God and if I ever have a problem with my roommate making too much noise (I have baddd misophonia) I just go to the library or something 😭 It’s their house too and my problems are not their responsibility.

Anonymous

#23 8w

literally bri

Anonymous

OP 8w

? i was replying to the other person and talking about how depression had nothing to do with the og conversation

Anonymous

#7 8w

Could always ask them 🤷🏽‍♀️

Anonymous

#25 8w

I get being annoyed by it if you specifically ask for alone time and they never agree to it ever, but in any other circumstance it seems stupid as hell to be annoyed by your roommate being in what is also very much their room

Anonymous

#25 8w

DEADASS. and like, i’ve never had to share room, i was lucky enough that my parents bought a fixer upper during the 2008 recession with enough rooms for us all. but like i still understand that my roommate is going to be here and i am not entitled to being alone.

Anonymous

OP 8w

right like i grew up sharing my room with at least 1 sibling most of the time. you do not get to kick them out of the room ever. if you have a partner you wanna have time with, you don't get to kick your sibling out of their room for that!

Anonymous

OP 8w

If you’re so depressed to the extent where you can’t leave, clean, or contribute to maintain a communal space how the hell are people meant to co-exist around you? Please be so fucking serious

Anonymous

OP 8w

I’m not wasting my time arguing with you or anyone else in this comment section! Continue to stay in your apartment 24/7 it’s not my problem! I’m simply offering another perspective I swear to god some of you act intentionally dense!

Anonymous

OP 8w

And if you could read I said it’s worth considering if living with other people is optimal! Not that you can’t live with other people at all duh! There’s literally accommodations ppl with depression and other issues can get! Some of them can even live alone or with an ESA, I think that would be more ideal.

Anonymous

#20 8w

You’re allowed to want it, but you aren’t entitled to it. A lot of the people on this act like their roommate is just an unwanted guest and not someone paying for half the room

Anonymous

#22 8w

As someone who had a dormmate my first year of college I think this argument just highlights how entitled people are. You and they acknowledge that both people are paying to split the space yet y'all feel entitled to having the entire space occasionally which is odd. It's one thing to want alone time and it's another to feel as though you are owed it by your roommate. You're saying you know you're not entitled to it, but y'all still feel entitled to it, otherwise this wouldn't be an argument.

Anonymous

#22 8w

Also, I don't think it's a "one roommate is always home and the other is always gone" situation. I was gone every weekend, most nights, all throughout the day, and every holiday. Yet my roommate would complain that she wanted the room to herself some days. It's just entitlement

Anonymous

#5 8w

then don’t complain when u have a roommate??

Anonymous

raccoon27 8w

I’m not complaining I was saying people deserve to be in their shared space no matter what what are you on about

Anonymous

#2 8w

Thats hot

Anonymous

OP 8w

No my roommate is quite literally here 24/7 they skip classes constantly, they are loud af super late even though we had a discussion about when we need to be quiet, they only ever leave the room from 8pm-2am and then comes back at 2am and proceeds to wake me up. I am out of the room from 7am-8pm except for the hours of 1-3pm. I don’t feel I am wrong for wanting them to be quieter (aka not yelling at their game) for the few hours I am in the room since they have all other hours of the day.

Anonymous

#5 7w

Ok ? Still not their problem. Cant afford it.. can't complain about the other person who ALSO likely couldn't afford it. Yall are supposed to be in it tg

Anonymous

#36 7w

Never once did I complain about the other person, I think it’s stupid that people are complaining that their ROOMate is in their ROOM

Anonymous

#5 7w

Why are you determined to agrue against everybody who has the same opinion as you😭😂

Anonymous

#2 7w

*argue

Anonymous

#2 7w

I literally am not I’m wondering why everyone is telling me my opinion when I’ve clearly stated it. I’m not arguing just explaining.