i would say something like it’s fine if they come over thu-sat night but i have school/ work tomorrow and i really need a good night sleep. pls respect that this is my space as well.

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It’s def reasonable. If I can hear you screaming in the other room you need to be quieter after a certain hour

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did you guys sign the roommate agreement? because if your roommate doesn’t like what you said you can always talk to your RA (if you’re an underclassman) and they can bring up the agreement thingy

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I think it’s reasonable as long as you don’t have friends over constantly too

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If you guys live in the same space, just different rooms, and her friends are also in the place then yes. I would say this is all completely normal and reasonable to ask. If they can’t keep quiet after certain times then they need to leave or find another space to hangout. And I don’t see the passive aggressiveness at all. It seems fine to me

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i think that the sentiment is reasonable but if you want to avoid any possible drama you could reword it a little bit! if you’re sharing a space/in the same room i think that this is a reasonable ask, but if you’re in two different rooms it’s not very reasonable to ask her to limit the amount of time they spend over. i would instead ask her if they all can quiet down past a certain hour if you have school/work.

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do yall share a room?

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I remember asking my roommate the same exact thing bc her friends were so loud and she completely flipped out on my and got her family involved and I had to deal with her and her hostile family staying in our apt for an entire weekend😍😍

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the sentiment is reasonable but i would reword the hell out of this personally

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