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Roommate Rants 3w
How would I respectfully bring up my roommates boyfriend to her? He’s always over, walks in and out whenever he wants (sometimes when she’s not here), and takes the parking spot right out front 😭
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Anonymous 2w

“Look I know you and (blank) are dating and he’s going to come over sometimes but I would appreciate it if you split time between here and his place more evenly. Also, did you give him a key at some point? Because I was never asked if he could have one and I’m not comfortable with how much he comes by when you’re not here. I’m not really asking a lot here I just want to be able to use the space I pay for too without him constantly being over.”

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Anonymous 2w

Tbh I would just set the boundary that she needs to be there when he’s over, that’s a basic, reasonable boundary and she may get the hint without getting too offended

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Anonymous 2w

Currently having this issue!!! She thinks I’m delulu and gonna go to the landlord. If u think that then obviously u know what ur doing is wrong…

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Anonymous replying to -> amethyst_popping_bottles 2w

I need a little more context on the parking thing because idk if he’s technically taking your designated spot or if he’s just blocking something.

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 2w

My only issue with that is the reason he’s able to get in is most likely he has a key OP doesn’t know about, which could cause issues if the landlord finds out as most leases are pretty strict about extra key copies. I do agree that making the boundary that he can’t come over or stay without her is a great place to start, but I would definitely want him to give that key back too.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

If she thinks you’re gonna go to the landlord then clearly what she’s doing is against the lease so might as well do it. Sounds like it’s the only way to get to accept boundaries atp

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