Anonymous #1 1w

No fr!! I shower AT LEAST once a day i genuinely don’t understand it 😭

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Anonymous OP 1w

same!! and if i don’t i feel sooo grimy throughout the day and i literally think “do i smell-? when people walk by do i smell to them??” and i’m a guy but i cannot IMAGINE the smell of a used pad n shit like that, that sounds horrifyingly bad 🥹

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Anonymous #3 1w

Mine has one but doesnt use it

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Anonymous #6 1w

No i want to know if anyone else on this planet doesn’t shower regularly and is comfortable with it. In this example I’m asking if anyone else only showers twice a week like my roommate

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Anonymous OP 1w

If you start to change the living environment/atmosphere of our common living space, I got beef

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Anonymous OP 1w

yes not showering is a common experience for many who may have rlly severe mental health struggles or other issues that may impact their executive function skills. ofc not saying that is what ur roommate is def going thru, but yeah others do it everywhere to. i’ll have intensely bad periods where i have executive dysfunction for most things even just peeing which has led to accidents before. i’ve gone longer periods of time w/o showering (would try to freshen up somehow if anywhere outside of my

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Anonymous OP 1w

room, which is in an apt so i’m alone thankfully. but sometimes it’s not 100% controllable. do yk if ur roommate has a rlly busy schedule or may be experiencing some form of burnout? maybe don’t like jump on her for not showering, but just see if shes doing okay, and if there’s anything you can do to help because you’ve noticed she’s more tired or exhausted or something. ofc absolutely hold any type of obligation to do ur roommates stuff, but sometimes ppl don’t just need even a small hand to

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Anonymous #7 1w

Yeah but we have been sharing a room for months so.. it’s not just the period. And i literally have depression so I’m not hating one anyone else’s depression. I just wish she would wash her ass more often

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Anonymous OP 1w

She barely has any classes and doesn’t work either. I literally have 19 credit hours and a job and i still find time to manage my depression and wash my ass too

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Anonymous OP 1w

feel more capable to take care of themselves. like something like offer to take out her trash sometimes if u don’t share it. again, just a suggestion ofc as you in no way should feel like u have to do extra work either. but having even one less tiny task may motivate her to shower more! ik i shower regularly especially when i don’t feel so overwhelmed with things i need to do that it paralyzes me 🥲

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Anonymous OP 1w

that’s great you can. but you are you and she is herself. you guys could have totally different things that present themselves differently as well. but that doesn’t mean it’s not getting to her or there’s not other underlying things you dk abt that she’s going thru. i’ve had these periods i talked abt even when i wasn’t super duper busy too. like i said ofc i perform better when not overwhelmed. but sometimes living with certain things, in certain environments, or other factors can make even

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Anonymous OP 1w

small things feel huge. i was busy this summer but not rlly. i just worked evenings at a bar & spent my days doing whatever. that’s chill. and it was also the most drained i have ever been because of all the little things i couldn’t grasp or would overwhelm me or it being not the best environment. i had three major uncontrollable meltdowns and could barely take care of myself at all to the point of drastically impacting my health. im sure ur roommate doesn’t like feeling the way she does. ik i

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Anonymous OP 1w

don’t. it’s miserable feeling like a failure on the most basic tasks. falling behind. risking our health. anyway maybe u could even just come across understanding with your mental health experiences, and then offer insight on how it’s okay if she needs some extra help to be able to live normally (professionally i mean ofc)

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Anonymous OP 1w

if it’s been going on for months then it’s 100% a deeper issue. of course does not mean it is fair for u to live with at all bc u deserve comfort and peace in ur own room too. but do not talk to her abt it if you do in a way where ur so obviously ridiculing her for it. bc that will not help, and would probs make it worse. u dont have to be like coddling., offer ur understanding on struggling, but also calmly state that its also impacting your own living area too bc its small rooms.

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Anonymous #7 1w

Yeah and id totally do that if we were friends but she has blown off any attempt of me trying to get to know her so i just gave up. We don’t even talk. I don’t have time to be holding anyone else’s hand and guiding them thru their shit right now. Especially not someone who is literally has more advantages in life than me including a literally family with a shit ton of money? But yeah ill be sure to slip her the number for the support center in between me coming back from class and going to work

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Anonymous OP 1w

nobody said u had to hold someone’s hand & guide them. and again it was just a suggestion bc im sure it would help increase showers. again, its not ur responsibility at all. but its also not something that she will snap out of and magically be able to fix im sorry to say & don’t mean to sound rude. but ik the way i quite literally feel so incapable of even moving sometimes. i’ve pissed myself & had nights of screaming/crying bc i was so constipated i needed three prescribed enemas to remove it

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Anonymous OP 1w

just like ppl laugh at the dummies who tell depressed ppl to just smile or go outside more bc like “oh wow! why didn’t i think of that?” lolll. the same is for this situation unfortunately. unfortunately i think it is just a situation where two ppl are going thru diff things & living together may not be compatible. you can possibly rven speak to ur RA abt it, they may offer to speak to them to offer help, and then also see if u can do a room change if you would like to. but that way as well ur

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Anonymous #7 1w

Idk why you’re still going i gave a perfectly reasonable solution but this is just fun for me honestly. Sorry abt all the shit that happened to you but you don’t even know if it is depression some ppl are just raised differently

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Anonymous OP 1w

not taking care of it but at least letting someone who could possibly help know your concerns, which again don’t make her out to be some enemy. ofc ur frustration is absolutely valid. i would never blame my roommates if they were frustrated with living with someone who does have lots more at least outwardly seen issues like i do. but also btw, ofc while having a well off family is absolutely going to help someone, that’s not always everything and i say this as someone who constantly speaks on my

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Anonymous OP 1w

unique disadvantages compared to most ppl i am surrounded with because i grew up in a low income class that nobody else ik has experienced personally. but i also had neglectful parents who just ignored my very very prominent and obvious issues, so i received such minimal help that now i barely know how to function. just an example ofc, but just that the brains we are living with is what we got. a wealthy individual can have even more mentally, intellectually, etc. issues than someone not wealthy

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Anonymous OP 1w

you don’t know if it is either, and this isn’t only depression. i have intellectual/mental disorders & disabilities along with multiple untreated brain injuries due to my sensory issues involve not being able to feel when my body is in pain as much & being seen as something not serious. im not saying she has any of that btw hahah but executive functioning issues can be for many different reasons

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Anonymous OP 1w

oh sorry hahaha i didn’t even realize that part. yeah that’s cool. sorry i overexplain a lot !

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