Anonymous astr0phag3 1h

I also have diagnosed ADHD and struggle with significant executive dysfunction, in addition to multiple other severe mental illnesses. My parents also did not make me clean as a kid or teach me how to. With those considerations, I have an even harder time understanding why I am the one who cares the most. Even if I have an episode, I’m still the one eventually cleaning. If a roommate had a physical disability it would make more sense, but they don’t, so it’s even harder to understand.

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Anonymous OP 26m

Part of depression is simply not caring enough to do tasks, but I’d bet it is incredibly frustrating being the only one to clean. The other part at least about mental disorders is that most exist on a spectrum (I’d argue all, but we haven’t studied that much into it, especially in women). While I have the same diagnoses as my roommate, I can exist in slightly higher functioning and thus I take the brunt for cleaning duties. However, since she’s acknowledged my impacts, we’ve come to a (1/2)

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Anonymous OP 23m

Compromise where I’ll clean, and she’ll contribute by helping cook or assisting financially in what she can. Co-existing with others in a space, especially strangers, can be frustrating and despite compromises may not always work. The impetuous that I tend to adhere to is patience— because regardless of the outcome, most cases will end up with a friend or acquaintance (2/2).

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