Anonymous #1 9w

Nah I meant like my roommate is an iPad kid. I’m part of the gen z that didn’t have the touch screens yet when I was young. Also my parents raised me right so I know how to clean communicate and take accountability. But when I ask my roommate to help me clean it turns into a tantrum

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Anonymous OP 9w

still. reducing people to "never being able to change" is a bit absurd. its obviously not your responsibility to help your roommate change. however, if you are sharing a living space, it might be a good thing to try and get them to help out. make sure they know your preferences. if that doesn't work, its not your responsibility. but still do what you need to do to life comfortably in your shared space :)

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Anonymous #1 9w

I’m pretty sure OP has tried talking about this to their roommate and the roommate just doesn’t listen or doesn’t follow through, I’m dealing with this rn too, I live with 4 other girls and 3 of the girls constantly just leave dirty dishes in the sink, to the point it’s full and the sink just becomes unusable! I tried bringing it up to them last week and they nodded and said ok they’d do better but there’s still been dishes full in the sink every night, even the 1 girl who had been doing ok with

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Anonymous #2 9w

…her dishes washed ALLL the dishes in the sink that night for them!!! I haven’t brought it up again yet, I’m waiting for us to have our first meeting with our RA cuz this is bullshit, I can’t even fill up the fucking Brita filter because there’s just sooo many dirty dishes in the sink!!!!😭🫠

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Anonymous #2 9w

honestly i think repeating it until they do it would work in this scenario, sometimes when people arent used to a task they tend to not want to / forget to do a simple task. i would just continue asking!

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Anonymous #1 9w

At that point asking a million times feels like begging. I fully understand what 2 is going through. I never said “people will never change” but there’s a level of maturity that hasn’t been reached yet. If they can’t learn by my asking, or by my example, it just becomes a toxic exhausting environment. I’m not mother. Now I just communicate the important stuff like bills and leave them alone

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Anonymous OP 9w

obviously you dont have the same scenario of chores, from what i can tell at least. but if it was, you shouldnt have to bear the burden of doing all the chores either. id rather someone tell me that im being slobbish, so i can better myself. than force someone to do all the chores. yes, being the bossy roommate isnt fun, but would you rather have help with them complaining, or have to do all the chores for them? i personally would rather have some help around.

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Anonymous #3 9w

THISSSSSS

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