Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 19h

I thought it was a just a one time thing. Not a weekly occurrence

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 19h

Yes. I work some Thursday’s or Friday’s. I come home late and don’t want strangers. Like why did she offer our home not someone else. She didn’t even ask she was like some people. But then she was like 20-30 people

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Anonymous OP 19h

Yeah if there’s that many people in the group there’s definitely somewhere else they can go. Whatever leadership exists was probably told you were onboard with this so definitely tell them you never agreed to this and they’ll find somewhere else to meet. I’m surprised this club isn’t meeting in a classroom or something like that.

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 19h

That’s what I’m surprised. They want to come over and watch survivor when they can go to a place at school not our place

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Anonymous OP 19h

With that many people I would think it would be easier to watch something on a big projector rather than a small tv.

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 19h

I feel like she could’ve mentioned about it instead of offering our place. I did not offer my house to that many people

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 18h

I usually give my roomate weeks in advance if I’m having people over and how many. She just gave me a few days

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Anonymous OP 18h

Does the club have a social media page? You might be able to dm them off that and tell them. Someone in leadership usually runs that

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 18h

They do but I’m seeing the first event

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Anonymous OP 17h

You can’t dm the account?

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Anonymous OP 17h

You could also find the leadership at the next meeting and pull them aside to talk

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 17h

I’m just gonna wait and see how many ppl go

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Anonymous #2 16h

Apt

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Anonymous OP 16h

Then I think it should be fine yall got yall own rooms yall shouldn’t have to tell eachother when you have guest just tell them to keep the noise down and go to your room

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Anonymous #2 16h

It’s not when it’s a bunch of people. It’s apart of the contract we signed….

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Anonymous OP 16h

How many is a bunch of people and if you ask them to be quiet and they are then go to your room and ignore them the only issue should really be if they are loud or touching your stuff

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Anonymous #2 16h

I responded to that question already. My guess is 20-30 people. Coming back late when all you wanna do is crash and there’s people over isn’t fun

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Anonymous OP 16h

Other thank just being at the apt what are they doing that bothers you cause if that’s your only complaint then it’s not that bad if they are loud then I understand but if it’s just the fact you want to come home and no one else is there a one bed room may be better for you

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Anonymous #2 16h

And you think I can afford that? With how expensive everything is getting? If you don’t like our rules you can leave

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Anonymous #2 16h

If this was a few friends I would get it but 20+ people weekly with no communication prior is insane. This seems to be a school club so they can meet at the school instead of a person’s apartment. Also with that many people I don’t get why the meeting place can’t rotate to some of the other members places, there’s no way only the roommate has the ability to host.

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Anonymous OP 16h

I just feel like you’re looking for an issue cause all they are doing is watching survivor it’d be different if they were partying and being loud you just don’t want anyone at the house when you get off and that can only be fixed by living alone

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Anonymous #2 16h

How am I looking for an issue? Someone else agrees with me that this is an issue with the amount of people coming.

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Anonymous #2 16h

You want to donate so I can live alone? I work two jobs yet can’t afford a one bedroom. Just say your privileged

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Anonymous OP 16h

On top of that I’m in school. I did not agree to live in having a lot of people over. Having a few friends is fine but not the entire club

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 16h

I just don’t see the big deal especially the communication part cause why does she have to communicate when we both pay bills idk I just feel like op would benefit from living alone or with someone who also don’t want guest over

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Anonymous #2 16h

If you don’t see how coming home to a crowd of random people with no head’s up then being told this will happen weekly with absolutely no say in the situation then you are the one that needs a one bedroom. OP just told you why moving isn’t an option and the club has other options for meeting places.

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Anonymous #2 16h

Again I cannot afford it. If you want to pay for my one bedroom go ahead. Have you’ve seen how expensive living along has gotten? She also doesn’t clean

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 16h

Exactly. I feel like they are bad roommates

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Anonymous OP 15h

So basically your roommate throws a party every week then leaves a mess and expects you to be okay with it?

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

But my question is other then the fact they are just there what are they doing are they loud are they touching op stuff I have a roommate and she bring people over all the time the amount doesn’t matter as long as they aren’t bothering me or touching my stuff just because I got off work and don’t want anyone there is not a real issue lol

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Anonymous OP 15h

And again if you can’t afford to live alone some things are gonna have be accepted cause if you complain about this she’s probably gonna complain about every single little thing you do and it’s gonna end up hostile cause like I said if they aren’t really bothering you and the only thing is you don’t want them there don’t make waves

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

That’s how mine is. She has messes and says “cleaning fairy” I’m the fairy

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Anonymous #2 15h

You sound like a bad roomate yikes. It’s all about communication

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Anonymous OP 15h

Or I’m just a roommate that doesn’t care what my roommate does as long as she doesn’t touch my stuff and pay her half of everything she don’t need to tell me who she’s inviting over or when she pay the same amount of bills as I do I’m not her mama

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Anonymous #2 15h

That’s your belief, but OP clearly finds both the lack of communication (which is the part you seem to be missing) and the amount of people bother them. It might not matter to you but it matters to them.

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Anonymous #2 15h

Again I don’t care if a few people come but if it’s an entire club I do

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Anonymous #2 15h

That’s fine but other people are different. Stop trying to minimize how OP feels because you don’t have the same problem

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Anonymous OP 15h

Seriously and why does 2 keep acting like 20+ people is the same as a few friends

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

Right. I’m hoping that that amount of people isn’t gonna come cause I don’t want my shit to be stolen

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

I just counted and it seems more than the number

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Anonymous OP 15h

Oh I would so refuse to clean leading up to this meeting and make her have to clean up for once

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

I’ve tried I want the common areas clean

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

I’m just saying she’s making a big deal cause she can always go to her room and close the door the people aren’t bothering her she just needs to pick a roommate that will let her play mommy and make the rules

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Anonymous #2 15h

Girl “making a big deal” when the walls are thin af. I’m not anyone’s mommy. We agreed to rules. If you don’t like those rules than leave. You are how old and don’t follow the rules you suck

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Anonymous OP 15h

You can leave too tho you’re not trapped lol

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Anonymous #2 15h

There you go again minimizing the situation. OP is not “playing mommy” for wanting basic ass communication and not have to worry about 20-30 people potentially wrecking the apartment that they’ll have to clean because their roommate thinks she has a cleaning fairy. Just say you’re a bad roommate and drop it.

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Anonymous #2 15h

Again I’m not leaving the house when I pay for it

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

Literally like knowing people I will have to clean it. I’m planning on hiding the pillows

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Anonymous #2 15h

Why should OP be forced to leave when it’s the roommate who can’t follow the rules she agreed to? You’re giving Karen right now

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

It’s giving bad Roomate

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

It’s even in the contract that we can’t allow certain amount of people in the home

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

I’m not a bad roommate op didn’t say anything about the cleaning till later like I said she need to room with someone more her speed or to be by herself. I get the cleaning part I’m not saying she should have to clean after them but her initial complaint was she just didnt want them there and that’s why i say she needs to live alone or switch apts cause why is someone who is also paying bills have to ask about having company this is not a dorm

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Anonymous OP 15h

She pay too tho so what’s gonna be yalls compromise cause it seems like it will only be resolved if it’s your way or no way

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Anonymous #2 15h

Again I cannot afford living alone. What part of that don’t you understand

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Anonymous #2 15h

Her parents pay for it not even her

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Anonymous #2 15h

And again I don’t mind a few people over

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Anonymous OP 15h

It doesn’t matter if she or her parents pay it’s paid lol

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Anonymous #2 15h

It does cause I found people treat it differently. Have the lovely day that you deserve. I don’t have time to argue with someone that’s not understanding

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

Cause she’s the one with an issue they usually move the person complaining to get them to shut up

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Anonymous OP 15h

Then idk what yall gonna do what’s the solution for you cause when you go snitch it’s gonna create a hostile environment then you can have even more stuff to be mad about

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Anonymous #2 15h

Your logic makes no sense and you sound like someone who has never faced consequences in their life.

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Anonymous OP 15h

It’s giving I just let my roommate do them unless it’s really affecting me like my stuff is broken or lost but if they just sitting in the living room I don’t really see a big issue

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Anonymous #2 15h

If I have to snitch I will if I come back to a crazy environment. Idc it’s my home

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Anonymous #2 15h

Dude just take the L. OP has explained why it’s a problem multiple times and all you’ve done is minimize and victim blamed. You are clearly a bad roommate if you think someone breaking the lease is not the problem so you need to reflect on your life choices

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Anonymous OP 15h

I just feel like this should be such a non issue ask them to be quiet and clean up and then if they don’t I can see an issue but you just not wanting them isn’t serious enough for someone to gaf

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

I followed you and hope we can talk to dms since ima not respond to them anymore

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Anonymous OP 15h

Fair

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

It’s not that deep she don’t want people over live alone

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Anonymous #2 15h

Again I said idc about having people over. You seem to keep missing that since I have mentioned it 3 times +

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Anonymous OP 15h

Although the issue is I don’t want to turn my DMs on in here in case weirdo here tries to pop off at me

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Anonymous OP 15h

Dude doesn’t want to listen he just wants to be right

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

Totally understandable. That’s why I also have them off

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

Nope they just ignore and doesn’t think that there is a character limit

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Anonymous OP 15h

Like I said you need to live alone

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Anonymous #2 15h

Like I said I can’t afford it but you are welcome to Venmo me. I’ve said this multiple times

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Anonymous #2 15h

And like OP said multiple times they can’t. If you actually read what we’ve been saying you’d have something new to say

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

They don’t read what I’ve said it multiple times. Drinking game take a shot every time you have to mention it again

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Anonymous OP 15h

Nah nah he clearly has been your roommate before and is trying to justify his crappy behavior by taking it out on you

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

God I hope not

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

Then thug it out or better yet invite people over too like don’t just sit around being mad okay you had work go to your room and go to bed it’s not like they are watching tv in your bed

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Anonymous #2 15h

I’m not mad though….

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Anonymous #2 15h

No one is sitting around and being mad OP is going to talk to club leadership and tell them they did not okay their place being the meeting spot for a huge club they’re not part of. Shits getting handled respectfully sorry you don’t know how to communicate

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Anonymous amethyst_popping_bottles 15h

This. I feel bad for there roomate. I’m all for communication

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