
Having roommates has made me realize some people have no spatial awareness and consideration for other people. Why is your door open while playing games loudly on speaker with your friends. Why are you yelling into your headphones on a call. Why are you using the common space ON A CALL ON SPEAKER and doing homework
ok i have a dilemma about this. i play video games and im on call with my friends where i talk a lot, but i always use my inside voice and i’ve been told im a quiet talker / often asked to speak up when im actively talking to someone. my roommate who is in the same room with me, with her desk only 2 feet away from mine (we live in a school dorm), listens to her TV shows with no earbuds, despite having them, and talks LOUD the entire time watching them. i feel like i can’t-(continued in replies)
-tell her to be more quiet since im always talking, and she doesn’t do this as frequently as me playing/talking to my friends, which she hasn’t commented me on doing or showed she’s had an issue with so far. but i feel like ill be a hypocrite if i do that. also i have my headphones on when im talking/playing and i can still hear her through them.
Be genuine with her, don’t make it feel like it’s her fault but rather something that you wanted to speak up about. Recognize the hypocrisy (ie “And I know I’m one to talk” etc”) Try and think of a solution with them that gives both people what they want whether that’s selected slots where the other person can be somewhere else or something like that.
Tbh honest most people aren’t aware of things like that unless you directly tell them (*glares at my roommates who refuse to do that*) don’t make them feel attacked but rather just an understanding they weren’t aware of. She probably didn’t even think to use her headphones or just assumed since you have yours on you can’t hear her, which is totally fair. It’s not about being right, it’s about working together to make sure both people have a pleasant living space