Roommate Rants on Sidechat | Genuine question: is it reasonable for me to think it’s hard for me to take accountability when people bring up stuff that I’ve already been accountable for? Like you can’t ask for that when you keep bringing up everything I did wrong and feel bad about.

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Roommate Rants 2d

Genuine question: is it reasonable for me to think it’s hard for me to take accountability when people bring up stuff that I’ve already been accountable for? Like you can’t ask for that when you keep bringing up everything I did wrong and feel bad about.

Anonymous 2d

Nah that’s just them harping on you for one imperfect moment and it’s not fair. Like I asked my roommate to do something once, she fixed it, never brought it up again bc I appreciate her dedication to wanting to do better. As long as you apologized and are trying to do better since you took accountability, they should have nothing to complain about.

Anonymous

#1 2d

Just tell them rubbing salt in the wound is unproductive and honestly hurts your feelings. You’re trying, and that’s better than doing nothing. There are worse roommates out there

Anonymous

#1 2d

Ok thanks. I tried to have a convo with them and it felt more like a legal debate than an actual conversation where they brought up everything I did wrong but I also remember apologizing for and being the one who stepped up to do so. Like sorry if I don’t want to spend 30 minutes being told how I’m awful by you guys and actually want to work forward.

Anonymous

#1 2d

It also feels like major gaslighting to be honest because it just makes me feel worse about myself. Like I’m a human being sometimes I’ll repeat things because I forgot or because I have a million things on my mind that doesn’t make me a bad person