Relationship Advice on Sidechat | friend’s BF is severely unempathetic which often makes my friend feel bad, how do you work through this? BF lives by logic and doesn’t truly understand things like anxiety, ocd, mental illness in general. cant really break up either as BF pays their rent.

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Relationship Advice 1w

friend’s BF is severely unempathetic which often makes my friend feel bad, how do you work through this? BF lives by logic and doesn’t truly understand things like anxiety, ocd, mental illness in general. cant really break up either as BF pays their rent.

Anonymous 1w

i mention mental illness because my friend suffers from severe anxiety and intrusive thoughts, which is often illogical, therefore their BF invalidates them lot. to sum it up, if he doesn’t think he did something wrong, then he didn’t. i want to know if there is any way to at least get him to understand where my friend is coming from so they can have a healthier relationship.

Anonymous 6d

Oh my god this is exactly what I went through. Almost same situation wtf haha. So I had an ex with very similar methodology, they thought more logically than emotionally and would often end up not understanding my feelings and invalidating them. If they did something to unintentionally upset me but didn’t think they did anything wrong, they didn’t understand/validate my feelings on the manner which hurt me more in the end. It made me feel scared to communicate anything to them

Anonymous 6d

And in the end this was enough to affect me mentally and it was very unhealthy

Anonymous 6d

A recommendation is trying couples therapy together to find ways to communicate in a way that works for both sides but if they are not willing to make an effort to try and understand because they think they were fine, then there’s sadly not much to be done

Anonymous

#1 6d

i did mention therapy and they jokingly responded “i’m too young for that!” lol, but realistically it would have to be the BF’s call since my friend isn’t in a stable position financially. i will bring it up again, but i agree, i also don’t think there can be any other way to remedy this other than breaking up. however the only support system they have is me and the BF which just makes things harder. I could not imagine removing the only other person you talk to in your life. thank you anyways!