i recently realized when talking to my therapist i’ve started self destructing mentally more often when i’m around him in order to force myself to not trust him so that im forced to keep some kind of distance between us. It’s horrible because I love him and he treats me so well but everytime i think about just letting it go and trusting him i get this horrible knot in my stomach and flashback to my last relationship, it’s like a mental wall goes up preventing me from thinking any different

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I have been with my bf for 6 months now and i love him to death but it’s actually so terrifying. the first time he said i love you, i had a full sobbing mental breakdown after he left because I realized i loved him too and that is an absolutely horrifyingly scary thought that i care about someone like that again. I’m so scared to believe it for what it is because that leaves me vunerable.

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It’s just a defense mechanism. It will go away in time.

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Do you have any advice for someone on the other side of this? My bf is like that bc of past relationship

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