it’s definitely hard to voice these things on a first date. honestly if a potential partner is holding sex over your head before a point where your comfortable they’re not worth it. When the time is right definitely open up to your partner.

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If it’s a dealbreaker to them, you dodged a bullet. You don’t want someone anyway if they need to rush sex

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It takes bravery to be open about such things, but I promise you a partner worth your time will be happy you trust them enough to tell them, and will 100% wait for you

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Any mature partner will be able to cope with lube and their left hand and not force you to deal with very valid trauma on their schedule, over something as petty as getting off.

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