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Am I wrong for wanting to spend more time with my boyfriend he’s saying I should seek therapy. All I did was voice I wanted to spend more time with him because he wakes up right before work and doesn’t text me til he’s there and then not again til 1/2
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Anonymous 4w

No, you are not wrong

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Anonymous 4w

Then not again til he’s home. Which is usually around 12 and on days he works earlier he normally goes out with his friends right after work so he’s not back til about the same time. He says I should be able to keep myself company without getting super emotional but I can’t help but feel that way when we literally only exchange two texts a day and we don’t call until it’s time for me to sleep. I wake up at 6AM FOR CLASSES I can’t stay up past 12 all the time to talk to him.

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Anonymous 4w

“Doesn’t text me til he’s there” God forbid a man drives safely in accordance with state traffic laws 😩

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Anonymous replying to -> littlepenis4.4 4w

He takes public transport.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

And that’s the first time he’d text me that day

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

Thank you. Because he’s making me feel like I’m a little crazy he’s saying my happiness shouldn’t rely on him when i literally just told him that I miss him and want more time with him and that I’m upset because of it. By the time he texts me my whole day has been completed and I’m usually doing homework or talking to my roommates. I have stuff to do outside of thinking of him and he’s acting like I don’t when I ask him of these things. I wish he made more of an effort to just talk to me more

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

If he's busy, whatever, but him reacting to you that way is rude at best and suspicious at worst

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

Exactly. I don’t care that he’s just I care that there’s a lack of communication and time spent together. And I feel like I’m always having to better myself for him but he doesn’t want to change anything for me

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

how long have you been together?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 4w

We got together rather recently only two months. We texted more throughout the first month and we even went on a date. We live almost an hour away from eachother neither of us have a car and public transportation both ways isn’t the most reliable so we uber. But since then we haven’t seen each-other and with his sleep and work schedule it makes it almost impossible to have conversations through the day so we have to talk at night when his shifts are over. This isn’t everyday but most.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 4w

I'm very sorry if this sounds cold, but why is it worth it to be with him then? If this was a years-long relationship and this only started happening recently, I would understand trying to work through it; as it is, it sounds like he's simply not providing you with what you'd like out of a relationship.

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