Relationship Advice on Sidechat | My bf and I are struggling to create boundaries around physical intimacy. We both want to wait for marriage, but that leaves a lot of gray area. My issue w boundaries is that I feel like we do as much to push them as we can once they are put in place.

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Relationship Advice 6d

My bf and I are struggling to create boundaries around physical intimacy. We both want to wait for marriage, but that leaves a lot of gray area. My issue w boundaries is that I feel like we do as much to push them as we can once they are put in place.

Anonymous 3d

Hi OP. I am a virgin by choice and most of my guy friends vanished due to bro culture. I have female friends now. I learned alot as I stayed a virgin. Intimacy can happen without sex. Kissing, hugging, caring, and etc. cuddling is a good medium like cuddling while watching tv. Talking to each other while cuddling. Massage. Etc.

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#2 3d

Mixing pleasure early on is putting the cart ahead of the horse. The motivating will be pleasure and not virtue. Everyone goes through hard times and that is when virtue shines. If it’s about pleasure, they’ll want to leave because it isn’t fun. Pleasure betrays and virtue lasts.

Anonymous

#2 3d

Also, any pleasure sought is really a ballon pop. Is it really worth it for a ballon pop? Infancy can lead to long lasting pleasure as both partners map out the senses and emotions and synch. Lasting pleasure can be therapeutic too even. All that isn’t possible when pleasure is the focus and getting it now rather than learn about the partner.