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Relationship Advice 12h
Is it normal for a relationship to be like a friendship with romance+intimacy or is it meant to be strictly romantic? My bf keeps complaining about how i talk abt anything but him half the time. When I asked if thats all he cared abt he changed subjects
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Anonymous 12h

What exactly does he want to talk about when it comes to him? I’m in a pretty healthy, long term relationship (5.5 years) and our dynamic is more like the former of friendship + romance and intimacy

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Anonymous 12h

I mean we sometimes have gushy moments like that (especially when we’re drunk and up late talking) but I’d say 90% of our conversations are on the platonic side. It would get very boring very fast if all we talked about was our love for each other and our relationship

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Anonymous 12h

Keep in mind my ass is new to relationships this is a genuine question </3

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Anonymous 9h

healthy relationships are definitely friendships and connection based first. obviously intimacy, love, and romance are incredibly important but just chatting and sharing thoughts is proven to be a huge part of healthy relationships, especially long distance ( i’m in one too, we are very in love )

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

I honestly don’t know bc when i ask all he says (in a playful manner) “about how much you love me” I thought it was a bit until when i asked if that’s all he cared abt and changed the subject. Now i’m not sure 💔He’s not a bad guy at all but im just. Like. Confused

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 12h

Yeah, that’s how i view it too! I might just ask him directly what kind of dynamic he expects from a relationship bc if it’s the latter idk if we’d be a good fit in the long term. Problem is i have a feeling he’ll just say “idk”

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 12h

Well if he doesn’t know (and isn’t saying he needs time to think about it) then there’s nothing you can do to help him 🤷🏻‍♀️ and I think putting it that way is the right thing to do if you decide to end things. It’s not like he’s a bad person, you’re just not a match and neither of you should have to compromise that much to make it work

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