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My bf of a few years keeps expressing to me that he wants to sleep around with other people. He says it will only be physical and he still wants to have me as a stable person in his life. I really don’t know how to feel about this.
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Anonymous 2w

nice of him to tell you instead of just doing it, I guess, but you shouldn't feel any obligation to say yes or put up with it if you don't want that.

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Anonymous 2w

Girl just leave him

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Anonymous 2w

You need to ask him why he even wants that when he has you

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Anonymous 2w

very kind of him to tell you. personally though the knowledge that he wants to sleep with other people is enough for me to want to leave. when i'm with someone i only really have eyes for them which i know no one believes. if you decide to keep dating do not let him do something that will make you feel bad. imagine what it would feel like to know he is actively sleeping with someone else. how would that make you feel? that's what he's offering

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Anonymous 2w

I’m doing a lot better now guys thank you

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Anonymous 2w

I really do love him and don’t want to lose him but I don’t know if I can emotionally handle him sleeping with other people, even if it is just physical.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

So tell him you’re not comfortable with it and that it’s not allowed in the relationship.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

Because if you allow it at the expense of your own comfort, you’ll view him completely different and you won’t be able to recover from that.

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

What 3 says. If it’ll ruin the relationship, tell him that. And if he wants to that bad, he can leave. You don’t have to submit to discomfort for the sake of the relationship, this is a two way street. Out of curiosity, how would he feel about you sleeping around? Hypothetically

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

He doesn’t care if I do or not

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 2w

OP idk how you’re still with him if my bf said this to me I would’ve cried my eyes out and told him to leave

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