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Literally spent an hour and a half arguing with my boyfriend of 6yrs, a fight that started with him trying to claim I didn’t care about him, turned into him projecting his hatred of my mom onto me, then ended with him trying to get handsy with me. Wtf
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Anonymous 1d

Those my dude are called red flags…despite the time together, there may need to be some reflection or at least some distance for a while

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Anonymous 1d

leave dat boy my son

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Anonymous 1d

Edit: I’ve wanted to end it for a while bc he’s HELLA childish and manipulative, but always feel bad because he’s created a codependency between us that I don’t know how to escape. I also feel like it’s over the moment I feel like I have to record our fights so I can show my friends or listen back to it just to prove to myself that my feelings about wanting to end things are invalid

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Anonymous 1d

get tf out of there

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Anonymous 22h

Handsy like sexy or handsy like Ike turner?

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Anonymous replying to -> #2 1d

The danger of having to leave is often put there by the relationship being dangerous. Fly, you fool

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 1d

I live with him, so unfortunately distance isn’t really an option. And we’ve been trying to “reflect” for years at this point. Our lease isn’t up until December, and he keeps talking about wanting to re-up… so I feel a little stuck, physically and financially.

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 1d

that man does not have your best interests in mind. it’s going to be really hard, but please do not re sign that lease. u have time to start planning and putting things aside to move out. look for women’s shelters in ur area if u need to. i believe in u <3

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 21h

Sexy. I’d have no issue leaving if he was hurting me. But he does have a history of issues with consent and sexual manipulation that we’ve constantly tried to work through. He has a hard time hearing the word ‘no’ sometimes

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 20h

You seem pretty fucking sexy.

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 19h

seems like someone else has issues with consent

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 19h

Who?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 18h

Break up with him over the phone. That’s what my gf did with her ex of 6 years because she just couldn’t bring herself to do it in person and he was hella childish and not a good match long term. She should’ve left earlier tbh. You’ll be glad when you leave him trust me. Yeah you’ll be sad for a while but do you really want this to be your life forever?

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 17h

you fuckass

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 7h

“I’d have no issue leaving if he was hurting me” sounds like he already is. Maybe not physically, but why are you putting up with manipulation and projection + CONSENT issues while trying to convince us you’d leave “if he was hurting me”. It sounds like he is in plenty of other ways.

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