Relationship Advice on Sidechat | I’ve been with my bf for 4.5 years. I’ve been bisexual for 8 years and my bf knows. I made a new friend, but I think I like her. I feel guilty and shameful. I see her at school and at work. I can’t stop thinking about her. Where do I even go from here?

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Relationship Advice 1w

I’ve been with my bf for 4.5 years. I’ve been bisexual for 8 years and my bf knows. I made a new friend, but I think I like her. I feel guilty and shameful. I see her at school and at work. I can’t stop thinking about her. Where do I even go from here?

Anonymous 1w

with any sexuality it’s normal to find ppl attractive outside of a relationship so don’t feel guilty BUT what matters is that you don’t act on it. if you have feelings for this girl you should distance yourself. unless you think it’s worth giving up you relationship to explore it in that case tell you boyfriend breakup and love you life girl……either way is not a problem but don’t be a cheater and emotional cheating counts

Anonymous 1w

are you willing to give up a 4.5 year relationship for a girl you just met?

Anonymous 1w

Ask yourself if there are any unmet needs in your relationship

Anonymous

#2 1w

Remember that we don’t control our thoughts, we only control how we react to them

Anonymous

#2 1w

Also try to keep your distance from her and don’t feed the feelings. Don’t fight them, because resisting thoughts often ingrains them deeper; but try not to feed them

Anonymous

#4 1w

side note your boyfriend may be open to you experimenting but as a lesbian woman i think this is just messed up for a lot of different reasons i dont need to get into i just wouldn’t recommend but it’s your life you could try having that convo with him and this woman 😅😅