Relationship Advice on Sidechat | this is going to sound so nasty but i’ve noticed my bf doesn’t brush his teeth that often. so i threw away his toothbrush (while i was replacing mine) and im gonna see how long it takes him to notice n ask for a new one. (at my apartment)

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Relationship Advice 1w

this is going to sound so nasty but i’ve noticed my bf doesn’t brush his teeth that often. so i threw away his toothbrush (while i was replacing mine) and im gonna see how long it takes him to notice n ask for a new one. (at my apartment)

Anonymous 1w

Honestly a valid response, personally I would’ve just hidden it

Anonymous 1w

I get your point but a lot of the time lack of teeth brushing is associated with mental health (depression, autism, adhd, anxiety disorders, even sexual trauma has been linked to hygiene avoidance). So why don’t you just talk to him about it directly instead of being passive aggressive and playing games with it?

Anonymous

#2 1w

i have. n i have been the one to always remind him to brush his teeth. he is neurotypical, so that can’t be a reason for it. but even tho i still remind him, its starting to get on my nerves. i think he’s given me cavities since i started dating him, so its affecting me too. i just want to know *how* bad it is. will he even brush his teeth the week he’s over here for thanksgiving?? i want to know the severity.

Anonymous

#1 1w

it needed to be replaced anyway. usually i replace his and mine at the same time.

Anonymous

OP 1w

Just bc he doesn’t have any diagnoses doesn’t mean he doesn’t have anything, esp if it’s an issue of constantly reminding him. But if you’ve talked about it and he still hasn’t improved it’s not your job to police him for it, so only do what you’re comfortable with going forward.

Anonymous

#2 1w

i know. i’m having my dentist recheck my old x-rays when i see her next to see if the cavities were caused by him or just went under the radar :(