Relationship Advice on Sidechat | My boyfriend (21 and in school) still lives with his parents and his dad keeps restricting when I can come over but he always waits till we make plans and then doesn’t allow me over like an hour before I’m about to leave (more in comments)

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My boyfriend (21 and in school) still lives with his parents and his dad keeps restricting when I can come over but he always waits till we make plans and then doesn’t allow me over like an hour before I’m about to leave (more in comments)

Anonymous 4d

His dad’s house - his dad’s rules, as far as when someone comes over anyway. Sounds harsh but that’s his domain and he earned it. Your bf is an adult and outside of his dad’s house shouldn’t be bound by his rules for the most part. If he really wanted to see you, he would. Nothing cultural about it. The gas excuse is ridiculous. He’s a lazy bf who is letting you do all the work and spend all your time and gas money going to him when it’s convenient for him. He needs to step up. Red flag.

Anonymous 5d

Why can’t your bf come to your place? Or just meet somewhere in the middle? I also think if he can’t go against his dad over this when he’s an adult, that will cause more issues in the future…

Anonymous 5d

My boyfriend can’t keep driving down to me because his job isn’t giving him many hours rn and we live about 30 minutes apart I’m not sure what to do because we only get to see each other on the weekends most of the time but still talk through out the week I (19) have had an empty house because family is out of town and I’m starting to go crazy because I haven’t had any human interaction since Tuesday and his dad just said I couldn’t come over after I had already packed my bags and was about

Anonymous

OP 5d

To drive to his house in 30 minutes I don’t understand it and I don’t know how to deal with it

Anonymous

OP 5d

His dad his also aware of my current situation of no one being home for weeks rn and struggling to keep my college friendships after having to transfer he’s also aware of how upset it makes me because my boyfriends talked about it with him multiple times

Anonymous

#1 5d

He can’t come to mine because it’s a lot on his gas tank and we live in a rural area so somewhere in the middle is just farm land we have had a lot of issues where it feels like his dad really is controlling our relationship but he says he can’t speak of because it’s a culture thing and as a white woman I can’t really speak on it because this is my first interracial relationship I’m not sure if it’s normal or not

Anonymous

#2 4d

His dad has control over his bank account and won’t let him separate the two so anytime he wants to buy something he has to ask how much he has and his dad won’t tell him because “what do you need that for”

Anonymous

OP 2d

Which brings me back to - he’s an adult. Why does his dad have so much control, especially financially? Sounds like a lazy person who just sits back and lets other people pay for him and come to him. You can do a lot better. Wouldn’t you like someone who was responsible for themselves and made an effort for you? Tbh he sounds ridiculous.