Relationship Advice on Sidechat | I feel like my husband has stopped seeing me as a partner, and expects “🍑” when he wants it. We have a 7 month old, and I struggle HARD PPD and PPA after birth and have ZERO drive for anything. But he’s only cares about himself. Idk what to do anymore

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Relationship Advice 2w

I feel like my husband has stopped seeing me as a partner, and expects “🍑” when he wants it. We have a 7 month old, and I struggle HARD PPD and PPA after birth and have ZERO drive for anything. But he’s only cares about himself. Idk what to do anymore

#newmom#partnerwithdisabilities#burntout

Anonymous 2w

You gotta say it to him. And you probably gotta be mean about it too, because he clearly doesn’t care otherwise. (Not trying to diss your man, just that when someone doesn’t want sex there are signs, and I have a hard line against pushing. I bet he knows) If that doesn’t work. I’ll be honest he’s probably not gonna get better in the long run. Maybe I’m pessimistic but you might be better off taking a break. Is he a good husband in other ways? He’s gotta have redeeming qualities

Anonymous

#1 2w

He’s got cognitive disabilities so it makes it harder for him to understand certain things. While I feel like he finally “understands” why I don’t want to be intimate, he still gets frustrated by it. He’s been babied his whole life because of his disability and I unintentionally stepped into that roll until I no longer could care for him, and had to put my focus towards our child. Now everything is falling apart at home, and I can’t keep up with cleaning and caring for our child

Anonymous

OP 1w

To be fair, his frustrations are valid for him, even if the situation as a whole you are in the right (which you are). He’s allowed to get frustrated, but what he chooses to do with that frustration or how he acts out because of it is an entirely different story. So let him feel that way and don’t feel responsible or guilty about it. You have your very valid reasons. Let him learn some tough love, which clearly, he was never taught.