Anonymous #1 2d

She went to a therapist for three sessions and then stopped going, she said she doesn’t need a therapist to know that’s she’s depressed, and to be fair she’s doing a lot better than she was before meeting me, I just feel like now I’m her fucking therapist…

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Anonymous OP 2d

Have you talked with her about these feelings?

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Anonymous #2 2d

Constantly. she punches down on herself almost like she’s punishing someone that’s guilty, but she’s not. She’s just an average girl but she puts so much weight on her shoulders, the moment I try to hold up some of the weight she just starts self pitying herself. It’s tiring especially when she doesn’t deserve it.

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Anonymous OP 2d

I get that. Just clarifying, have you had a serious conversation with her about how tired it makes you, how you feel like you’ve become her therapist and it needs to change?

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Anonymous #2 2d

There’s usually a 50/50 chance that the conversation ends up with her crying and me apologizing or she agrees with me says sorry and does it a week later again and I’m back to being a therapist

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Anonymous OP 2d

Being a therapist for someone, especially a partner often can cause you to build resentment, tell her that you love her but encourage her to go to therapy not just so she can know she’s depressed but also to see how she can manage with it and possibly if she needs smth like lexapro

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