Relationship Advice on Sidechat | guys i need your help, my boyfriend said his boundary is him not wanting me to drink at all whatsoever bc it makes him uncomfortable even if im just with my girlfriends and having some wine or a couple of mixed drinks am i in the wrong for being upset?

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Relationship Advice 21h

guys i need your help, my boyfriend said his boundary is him not wanting me to drink at all whatsoever bc it makes him uncomfortable even if im just with my girlfriends and having some wine or a couple of mixed drinks am i in the wrong for being upset?

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Anonymous 21h

Sounds controlling.

Anonymous 20h

if that's his boundary, that's his boundary. question falls to you if that's something you can tolerate in a relationship. if not, you also shouldn't feel bad for considering it a dealbreaker.

Anonymous 11h

Have you asked him why he has an issue with this? That is a key determining factor

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#2 17h

he said i’m immature and gross if i drink.. so that’s why im like upset bc he can have his own values but i shouldn’t have to follow them i’m an adult yk

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OP 17h

that would be 100% true if he was saying HE considers drinking to be immature but doesn't care what you do. he's trying to force you to have his values so you have to decide whether that's enough to leave over (i don't think anyone would blame you if so)

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Anonymous

OP 16h

Sounds like he’s trying to control you. You are an adult and can make your own decisions.

Anonymous

OP 16h

Maybe try clarifying with him. Like there’s a difference between a few drinks and getting blackout or sloppy drunk.

Anonymous

#4 16h

I had an alcoholic mother and seeing drunk women scared the shit out of me, and it pulled me in a direction of disgust for a long time. I’m better now, but yeah.