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Relationship Advice 2w
My bf is Christian and wants to wait until marriage to do anything past kissing. Ive only had one partner before and I feel that you should know if you’re compatible sexually before marriage. I like him but that is also an important aspect of relationship
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Anonymous 2w

Yeah, no. If you’re not religious and he is SO religious that he won’t do anything but kiss you, it’s not gonna work. Your instinct is right too, it’s insane to commit yourself to marriage before knowing if you’re sexually compatible at all

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Anonymous 2w

Is it weird that I don’t think this is going to last long term? I also don’t like how everyone we just kiss and do nothing else. I’m not religious either. But I feel bad because I like him a lot

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Anonymous 2w

You're correct that this seems like a bad match

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Anonymous 2w

im a strong believer in u gotta see the whole package before u sign the deal

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Anonymous 2w

I mean if you don’t want to be there then don’t be there. But to think sexual compatibility comes naturally, like it happens or it doesn’t, and isn’t something that comes from communication, growth, and time being together, is a bit of a red flag to me. If you don’t want to wait don’t be with someone who’s waiting, but this reason has never made sense to me

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Anonymous replying to -> #3 2w

Sexual compatibility can get better, but there are also very definite things that can make or break it. If someone’s kinky vs vanilla for example, if someone likes to be vocal but the other person is silent, even if there’s chemistry or not… you don’t really know until you’ve gotten a little hot and heavy

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 2w

I mean, but if you love the person, you’ll accommodate eachother’s interests or lack of.

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

Precisely

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Anonymous replying to -> #5 2w

If you’re breaking up with someone over something like sex (which you can get better at with time) then you’re shallow as hell

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

Sometimes you’re just not compatible though. It’s not about interests, it’s about needs that not everyone is capable of fulfilling. Also, as i said, you can’t even usually really know if you guys have true chemistry or not by a simple kiss

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

i mean ur free to judge but for me sex is an important part of my romantic life and if im with a partner that i wont feel satisfied with our chemistry then i feel like it wouldnt be fun for either of us

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Anonymous replying to -> #4 2w

and honestly if i pull down my new husbands pants to find out his pp is the size of my thumb i would not be happy …

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