Anonymous #1 9w

maybe not dump persay but if you wanna get his attention then say you’ll leave and if after a week you don’t see change then actually leave

5

Anonymous #2 9w

something people just need an eye opener because they’ve gotten too comfortable

5

Anonymous #3 9w

To him again and explain exactly where you’re at. But you shouldn’t have to say it over and over. The best shitty advice I can give you is really take a few days to yourself and think on this

5

Anonymous #3 9w

So update on the situation: I talked to him about it last night. I tried to stay calm, but then he initially acted oblivious, then had this whole moment of realization ig when I gave specific scenarios, then he went on this whole tangent about how he was a terrible boyfriend, how I deserved better, and how sorry he was, I told him I couldn’t accept an apology until change happened and explained how much the situation really affected me, and then he responded with saying that we should just—

1

Anonymous OP 9w

—break up. I told him that it’s for the best, especially since this was the first time I really went down on him harshly/firmly instead of just backing down and apologizing to HIM whenever I try to explain my feelings (because he would pull the terrible boyfriend card again). Then he immediately blocked me on the main app of communication we were using and I woke up to all of his social media accounts being deactivated

6

Anonymous OP 9w

Okay. So based on this I really think you need to say this to yourself: I did not cause this, this isn’t my thing to own. This is his to own. You held your ground, and spoke up for yourself. In a relationship that truly was meant to have a future, that wouldn’t blow the relationship up. This isn’t on you. I’ll say it again: this isn’t on you (1/2)

10

Anonymous #3 9w

Please don’t take this on. Judging by his reaction from what info you’ve given, he’s voiding his deeper issues. He avoided taking accountability by doing the classic “I’m a bad boyfriend” thing. You don’t deserve that. You know you don’t deserve that. It doesn’t make it hurt less, and I’m sorry for whatever you’re feeling or will feel about this. But please, don’t take on this immaturity okay?

3

Anonymous #3 9w

You shouldn’t have to apologize for having feelings EVER. Sharing “I feel” statements or “this makes me feel like this” should NEVER be disregarded by a partner

5

Anonymous #3 9w

And I definitely think that’s something that I’ll have to work through. Because I figured that when he blocked me, that’s all it’d be, and he would just be another ex that I stopped speaking to (he would be the fourth person I’ve seriously been with, and now I only speak to one of my exes). But then he deactivated all of his stuff and I felt terrible and honestly a little worried since I have friends of his added on Instagram and I don’t know how he’ll explain the situation. But I also know—

1

Anonymous OP 9w

—that it’s not my fault. Especially because the whole thing that caused this fight between us was the fact that (heavy stuff in the next line, I’ll mark the start and end with ⚠️) ⚠️he went against my boundaries many times, especially in the bedroom⚠️ and that isn’t any fault of my own, but it’ll just be hard to not blame myself for a bit

1