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Relationship Advice 5w
My boyfriend and I haven’t been connecting lately. I’ve talked to him many times and still no changes. I’ve started to have a small crush on a co worker and I feel so guilty. I would never cheat. I just get excited when I see him. Am I a bad person?
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Anonymous 5w

I think everyone has moments where you look at someone and are objectively attracted to them. However, what you’re describing seems more like an emotional-cheating situation. I would say probably just break up with your boyfriend. Not all relationships are meant to work out, and if you’re feeling a pull towards someone else— listen to it before it becomes a moral dilemma.

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

Thank you for your advice. I know I need to break up with him. I’m just scared to start over. I think I’m gonna wait till after the holidays to do that. No one wants to be alone on the holidays. And plus we kinda already have family trips planned 😬 that sounds terrible but it gives me time to warm my mom as well so she can make space for me to move in

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Yeah of course no problem. It’s really scary to start over—this past year I got out of a four year relationship; it’s an intense change. Yeah— holidays can be so depressing being single and the family trips thing makes sense. I really hope it goes well for you, it’s not easy to leave

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

Thank you. How do you do it? I never thought being in those situations was hard, until I was in it. How did you make the switch? From seeing them everyday and talking to them everyday. Calling them when something good happens. Eating dinner together. It just seems so depressing. I hate fkn being sad and depressed. What helped you get through it?

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Anonymous replying to -> OP 5w

Honestly with time, everything will become much less painful. But besides just time, thinking about the relationship in a realistic way. Like in ten years from now do you want to be with this person, is this the person you want to grow old with? If you can’t imagine growing old with them, then they’re not the one for you. I’m still single, but I’ve been on a few dates since all of that, and honestly there are so many people in the world that it’s inevitable you’ll meet someone for you

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Anonymous replying to -> #1 5w

Ughhhh why does it have to be so hard

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